Ask Deeker A Question (Responses)- July 2009

Question #1:  I have read C.R.I.B. and it's a good story, but I'm left hanging. When do you plan on finishing it?

Now that the new surveys are done (just need to write the guides to explain each question) I hope to have time now to continue work on the story. I have no timetable when to I do have plans for finishing the story. I have its ending in mind so I am just working on bridging the ending with what I already have written.

Question #2:  Do you plan on doing other exciting stories?

Of course! I'm just not going to reveal what they are or when they will be posted. I will only post them once I am ready to present them. This is so that people won't be expecting something that I may not be able to deliver.

Question #1:  Why dont you make a chat room like at http//babytalk.abyclub.com using Web Crossing? There is no need for admin becose everone is in some way an admin.

Maybe someday I will add a chat room similar to the one you described and pointed to in your link. If it can be done without too much hassle or monitoring I'm all for it.

Question #1:  I think I remember a while back seeing you say that you thought that at some point you will have to step down from running this site because your age would make it seem inappropriate or something like that. Do you ever say that? If yes, how old (approximant range) do you think would be too old for you to be running this site? How would you choose a successor?

I did mention this very recently. I have a feeling that once I am fifty the age differential between myself and my target audience will peg people's "creepy meter" too hard to be comfortable with running the web site, but it's one of those "wait and see" things. I'm not sure how I would choose a successor, but once the time comes (and it will someday; I won't live forever, after all), I will put out a bid for takeover of the site. My candidate would have to be someone whose feelings about diapers and boyhood are similar to mine, and hopefully he would have the experiences to back up the foundation of his feelings. I'll cross that bridge when I get there. For now I hope the bridge is far beyond the horizon.

Question #2:  What are your thoughts on the modern movement of infant �potty training� better known as Elimination Communication (EC)?

Quite honestly, I had never even heard of this until you asked this question, so I consider myself enlightened and I thank you for contributing to the expansion of my knowledge base with this edification. As a diaper lover, I'm against it, but more specifically, as the founder of Deekerianism, I'd only be in favor of EC being used on girls, while keeping boys in diapers. For a cursory overview I went to Wikipedia. I was disappointed to see that the article does not point out any drawbacks, disadvantages, caveats or any other sort of information that challenges its effectiveness. I was hard-pressed to find any stories about parents trying it and failing, though I didn't devote a whole lot of time to the topic. While I doubt that diapers will become a thing of the past in my lifetime, I shudder to think of a world where diapers do not exist. Perhaps I could use this as a theme for a diaper story and called it "Diaper Dystopia" or something.

Question #3:  I infer from your answers to other questions that you believe that sites with pictures of kids in diapers are perfectly fine, do I have this right? If yes, why do you think this?

Pictures of kids in diapers are no different than pictures of kids in swimwear and underwear, and there are lots of pictures like this that are not taken in any sort of exploitative or sexual context, so I see nothing wrong with such pictures. A lot of younger boys benefit from such pictures in that they can see for themselves that other boys their age wear diapers. Just because diapers leave a lot of bare leg showing (and chest if no shirt is worn) and because diapers-- by the fact that they cover up the private areas because these are the places where the pee and poop come out of-- tend to draw attention to these areas, doesn't make them bad pictures.

Question #4:  Do you feel that Yior should have been shut down for being a child porn site?

From what I saw of the site where there were no sexually explicit pictures to the best of my knowledge,so I say no, it did not deserve to be shut down. If, on the other hand, the site did have pictures of kids engaged in sexual activities, then I'd have a big problem with this and would support seeing such a site shut down.

Question #1:  What is the best American city to meet and possibly date other diaper lovers and why?

San Francisco has a liberal culture that is more open to alternative and unconventional sexual persuasions, so this will probably be your best bet. Seattle also seems to have a fair number of adult diaper lovers. You might also do well in Florida. I don't know if the rest of the eastern seaboard is as fertile of territory, but there are a number of large cities where, if you rely on sheer numbers, you stand a greater chance of meeting someone with compatible interests. I can't say with any degree of authority that places like the southern states (excepting Florida, which, culturally, isn't the "deep south") and other politically and religiously conservative areas such as Utah, are probably not your best bets.

Question #2:  What is/are the best and safest sites to meet other diaper lovers?

I don't go there much these days, but have you tried DPF? Other than that, I got nothing. I know that Myspace and Facebook are popular social-networking sites, but since they cater to a very broad audience I can imagine your reticence to mention your diaper interests, unless you use an alter ego, or that this is the only way you wish to present yourself on these sites. Aby.com might also appeal to you if you are looking for a same-sex partner (it's currently offline, though).

Question #3:  Not a question- just a simple thank you for years of solid web mastering! Really helped during my teenage years. Continues to help as an adult.

Thank you! It's good to know that you have remained faithful to the site. You're always welcome here.

Question #1:  Hey deeker! Love your site, keep up the good work!

Thanks! Pleased as always to be of service.

Question #1:  Where can I get some diapers for a 16 to 20 year old? (online to deliver)

The Links page is full of vendor sites. I'm sure you will find one that suits your needs and preferences.

Question #2:  How old are you?

I am not as open about my age as I used to be. It seems that as I get older, people's perceptions of my involvement in diapers and creating a web site that caters to preteen and teen boys along with adults, creeps some people out, so I no longer disclose my age on the About Me page. Since it seems a lot of people already know, I will disclose it here: 39.

Question #1:  How can I get a diaper rash? My babysitter/girlfriend wants me to feel what it is like. She babies me 24/7 and that's the only thing that I have not have had happen to me.

Easy, just don't let her change your diapers for awhile. Your urine is alkaline (like ammonia), and after awhile of having urine in contact with your skin, rash will result. Unwiped poop left in place for awhile will also achieve a similar result. A more precise and detailed explanation of how diaper rash is caused and why it happens can be found on Wikipedia.

Question #1:  Sorry if this is something you don't want to answer but I've kissed a guy before (someone who is also into this) but I feel no attraction to him or any other guys. Is this normal?

I don�t mind you asking me this, but I cannot really answer this with any experience, only from what I remember reading in a book I had as a young teen called "Boys and Sex". I remember a passage where the book discussed what was called "latent homosexuality". Rather than attempt to explain it here, I will direct you to a Wikipedia article. I also understand that some sexual experimentation involving members of the same sex is not unusual, though for most boys they go through these phases in the earlier years of adolescence. One item that would help me to understand your situation is if you regularly have heterosexual feelings and urges?

Question #2:  I'm not sure if there is another question about this but is it normal to not have the urge to wear or use diapers after masturbation?

I did actually cover this when someone asked me a similar question. You can read my response here.

Question #3:  Kind of random but I get aroused just from kissing (Even without fantasising about anything) Do you consider this normal?

I've never heard of anyone experiencing this, so maybe it's not what I would call "normal", but that certainly doesn't make it bad, just as long as you do not harm yourself nor others (physically, mentally or socially), as with anything.

Question #4:  What was your favorite activity growing up?

I was a mostly solitary kid, so I didn't really engage in very many activities involving friends. I liked to draw, write stories (including some diaper stories, which I still wish I had), play with Legos, Hot Wheels, and play video games (yes, we had them back in my day, when it was cool to have an Atari 2600.) When I was with friends we'd ride our bikes around, play video games at home and at the arcade if someone's mom dropped us off there. We'd listen to rock music and sometimes watch movies on this then-new- fangled form of television called cable. Imagine that! Uncensored movies that you can watch at home without commercials! Quite the novelty for its time. I also enjoyed playing with my cats, holding them, cuddling them and petting them.

Question #1:  Im a 14 year old Diaper Boy and right now I wear Goodnights, but im looking for somthing thats a "real diaper". Somthing thicker, bulker, and good holding ability. What would you recommend?

Since mail order is probably out, my first stop would be a medical supply store. Their staff would certainly be understanding of your needs (and if you don't really need to wear diapers, they don't need to know that).

Question #2:  Whats wrong with colored diapers?

Plain white diapers are a hallmark of Deekerianism (the set of ideals that I feel define the utimately fulfilling diaper experiences for a boy). I know I may sound harsh about colored diapers, and while I am not fond of them, I recognize that other people would rather have some color and variety. My feelings about colored diapers is this: diapers (including plastic pants) that contain solid colors, patterns and other graphics are seen as diapers that attempt to make some kind of fashion statement or to show that diapers, in spite of their primary purpose, can also be stylish. A plain white diaper exhibits no such stylishness or fashion and presents itself as a diaper in its purest, most obvious form. The observer is left with no question that what the boy is wearing is a diaper and that there must be a valid reason for him to wear such a highly conspicuous and purposeful garment. While the diaper need not be absolutely pure white, it should appear plain white to an observer from at least a relatively short distance (three feet or more) in at least moderate light (e.g. daytime in a room with a windowbut being away from the window, all lights off.) Wetness indicators should not be counted against a diaper'spure whiteness.

Question #1:  Are you married or do you have a girlfriend?

I am not married, nor do I have a girlfriend. My dating opportunities and experiences were few and far between. Without going into a lot of detail, the most succinct way to explain this is that I am socially inept and incompatible with anyone of the opposite sex. These are not self-pitying or self-deprecating statements; they are just facts to which I have come to the conclusion are why I am not married or with a girlfriend.

Question #1:  Hey deeker! When I was about nine I remember visiting a diaper boy site. I faintly remember pictures of other diaper boys like me. Was this your site?

This site has never had a section featuring photos of diapered boys. There is a section for  Diaper Boy Drawings, however. Since you said "pictures" and didn't specify photos, per se, perhaps was it these drawings that you are thinking of?

Question #2:  If so why did you remove them?

If I ever did have a section of diapered boy photos, I would have most likely removed it because of the highly controversial nature of such photos, which is why it is so hard to find web sites that feature photos. Back in the days of Geocities, Tripod, etc., anyone who dared to put up a site with such pictures could count on having it taken down by the Geostapo within a week.

Question #3:  Is there other sites like this one, ( yes I did google diaper boy but all I got was AB sites)

This is but one of few sites remaining that prominently caters to both TBs and ABs who enjoy reminiscing over their diapered boyhood years. Someone else told me that he is contructing a similar site, but I am awaiting his reply so that he can tell me what the URL or the web site's name is. is. You might want to check out http;//www.talkhard.5u.com/, although as of this posting the site is undergoing a major overhaul.

Question #1:  How do we know when new stories come out each week?

New stories are posted late Sunday night. By Monday morning you should see all the new material. If you don't see new stories, refresh your browser and reload the page.

Question #2:  I like diapers. Does it make me gay?

Not at all. Even if you like seeing other boys in diapers it doesn't necessarily mean you are gay. It means you can identify with other diaper boys When I saw John Jungles (seeWhat Might Have Been)in the locker room at school putting on a literal buttload of white boys' underpants for his diapers he made quite a show of it, bending over so that everyone would see just how much underwear he had on. He'd even put some pairs on backwards so that the fly front was stretched across his butt and the seat was pulled up up way high in the front. He'd even tuck his shirt deep down into his innermost pairs and ensure that several waistbands were showing. He'd talk about how he pooped in his underwear (as if the smell didn't already indicate this) It was a show that I was much more content with over coming across a stack of abandoned Hustler magazines in the woods. As excited as I was by the scenario described above, I didn't have any desire to kiss or touch John, let alone engage in any sexual activity (the thought of mutual masturbation never even crossed my mind). What excited me was the fact that John represented the boy I wish I could have been, since his apparent situation with pooping in multiple underpants as diapers far greatly exceeded mine. I gave a great deal of thought to what his situation was like at home, where I could imagine he never wore pants, and only wore pants in school because he had to. One thing I noted was that he always had the same pair of pants on when he came to school. When I thought about the possibility of John having a jeans-clad sister who observed this behavior and took great delight in it herself (for her amusement and satisfaction) and feeling more thankful for being born a girl so as to not be inclined to engage in such immature and unclean activities, this sent me over the edge. It was the prerequisite that a girl be involved in the scenario that convinced me that I was not gay. The girl represented a sexually compatible figure to me (she would not be my sister, after all), Because of my social inhibitions and the fact that such a girl would not want anything to do with a boy who wears thick, poopy underwear all day, I am forced to rechannel all this sexual energy back into my diapers/underwear, which is a more reliable and proven outlet for such feelings, and having a boy like John being present in a similar scenario would greatly enhance the experience. Seeing John's butt padded up in layers and layers of white briefs, drawfing his skinny stick-like legs, would provide me with a visual to remind me of the very situation that by being a boy, fate has put me into. I should also note that I only think of the preceding scenario from the context of my own boyhood and not as an adult. Your experiences and feelings may be very different from mine, but it is my hopes that the scenario I described from my boyhood will help you to understand why my sexual response to diapers and other boys who wear them did not necessarily mean that I was gay. If I were gay I would have sought out male partners, and I have never done that; nor so I have any intentions of doing so. Whatever your situation may be or whatever experiences you may have had to bring the possibility of you being gay into question, it is improtant to understand that you likely share the same sexual feelings as your diapered brethren and perhaps also their perceptions towards girls who might see them in their diapers and change their diapers. If, when you approach puberty, you find that you like boys overall more than girls then this would be an indication of possibly being gay (and even at this age there is a lot of sexual experimentation, so don't conclude that you are gay because you might think a boy looks cute). If by the time you have attained sexual maturity and you have determined that girls are of no interest to you and that you'd rather kiss or be in the passionate embrace of another boy instead of with a girl, that woud mean you're gay. Even if it does turn out that you are gay, you are in a better spot today than you would have been in my day. The term "gay rights" hardly existed when I was growing up, and "sexual orientation" was not included in most anti-discrimination clauses. Being gay was seen as a mental disorder, a vile, wicked and evil perversion that subjected any such being afflicted with this anomaly to endless persecution, derision and rejection. People then gradually came to the realization that gay people do not choose to be gay, but are, in fact, born that way, and for the most part, function in society as everybody else. While the plight of the homosexual community has been greatlyt eased since then, society as a whole still craps on gay people in much the same way there are people who still show prejudices against people of other races. You would have far more support than anyone from my generation would have had.

Question #1:  My sister still thinks I'm a pervert. What should I do?

Confront her with the issue. Ask her why she thinks you're a pervert. She'll likely be dismissive and say that because you like to wear diapers and leave it at that. Don't let her go. Keep asking her why she thinks that the things you do make you a pervert. Whatever the case may be, make the point that since your activities (I presume) do not violate other people's privacy, then there shouldn't be any problem. A true pervert is one whose sexual urges and activities cannot be managed or contained within a certain environment and therefore must resort to measures that are, at best, impolite, and at worst, antisocial and illegal. Call her own sexual proclivities into question if you can get this out of her. Wear her down and make her think about what she is really saying. Perhaps she is just using the word too loosely, when she probably just means that she thinks you're weird, and because this weirdness has a sexual slant to it, this makes you a pervert. Maybe she'll shape up and mature one day and come to terms with her ignorance.

Question #2:  Athough part of why I like to wear is for sexual pleasure, I don't enjoy masturbating in them. Is that normal for a TB/DL?

Most preteen and teen boys who get sexual pleasure from their diapers will masturbate in their diapers. If you do get sexual pleasure from your diapers, why do you not enjoy masturbating in them? Do you feel guilty about these feelings and urges? It's definitely normal for boys your age to masturbate, so my concern would be any psychological issues you may have with masturbating. If I knew more about your reservations or your hesitance towards masturbating in diapers I'd be able to answer your question more clearly.

Question #3:  This isn't diaper related, but how should I tell people I'm not gay? Even though I have a girlfriend (who is a tomboy), they still dont get it. Can you please help me?

You are at an age where your peers are sexually curious and unsure of a lot of things concerning sexuality. As tough as it may sound, denying that you are gay will likely accomplish nothing and will only fuel their fires more. I am speaking from experience. When I was your age (good God, am I already old enough to say that?), I was picked on for a lot of things, and once I got to junior high, when all the other boys were ogling girls, I was a "late bloomer", and I kept any latent expressions of sexual desires repressed. I didn't show the same level of interest in girls as other boys around me did, so everyone thought I was gay. Telling them that I am not gay only encouraged them more, so they called me faggot, queer, fairy, fruit, homo and all the other epithets that are associated with condemning homosexuality. Since having a girlfriend (and making her status as your girlfriend conspicuous and known to your peers) doesn't seem to be enough to convince them, the best thing to do is try to ignore them (easier said than done, since I know what an incredible bunch of ignorant jackasses classmates can be). Some may think your girlfriend is a front to mask your alleged homosexuality. On what grounds do your classmates claim to validate their suspicions of your sexual orientation? In the real world, the burden of proof is on the accuser and irrefutable evidence must be shown in order for an allegation to stand up, but unfortunately junior high justice doesn't seem to work this way. For me, I didn't talk about girls or ogle them, not because I was not interested, but because I felt liks such expressions should be repressed. Quite honestly, I was afraid of girls, and not because I thought they were infested with cooties, but because a lot of them knew I was a pariah, an outcast, and I was often shunned by then. Perhaps in the locker room some boys may have picked up on the way I looked at other boys in their white underwear thinking what they would look like wearing diapers, especially John Jungles, the boy who wore lots of white underwear like a diaper (as described in What Might Have Been.) While I had absolutely no desire to engage in sexual activity with John or any of the other boys, the thought of them wearing thick white diapers and pooping in them greatly aroused me, especially when I thought about the cute girls seeing them this way and changing them (hoping that John had a sister). I had some rather unusual sexual feelings and I was not about to tell anyone what I was thinking, so a lot of people, unsure of what to make of my behavior, likely dismissed it or concluded that I was gay. It's a tough and frustrating, if not utterly futile fight trying to convince people who willfully choose to keep their heads up their asses that you are not gay or worse, a pedophile. Denying such statements and attempting to show concrete evidence that you're straight does not sway them. Not having evidence that would support their claims, unfortunately, only means to them that you are hiding something. The word "gay" (which once meant "happy", but anyone who dares use this word in this sense today would either be ridiculed or thought of as hideously old-fashioned), is used so loosely amongst youth nowadays that it is often used to dismiss just about anything that isn't cool. "That music is so gay!" most often means that the listener just doesn't like it. In time, hopefully your classmates will eventually mature and the novelty of calling you gay will wear off and they'll move on to bigger and better things. Perhaps your classmates are insecure about their own sexuality, so to assure themselves and others that they are as straight as an arrow, they may target others who seem vulnerable (are you small or lanky?) and shift other people's attention towards you, lest your classmates be suspected of being homosexual themselves. Just remember, as long as they choose to remain ignorant, nothing will change that.

Question #1:  Hi, I have been visting the site for years now and love it! Thanks to your site I have been able to trust a friend and let him know and he even tried one on! Also, I have been able to go out in public a couple of times (even to school!) because of the courage, even though I had to hide them. :(

That's great! Hopefully your story will gives others in a similar situation the confidence they need to go out there and wear their diapers. Going to school? You are a brave one indeed!

Question #2:  I am lucky enough to be able to just barely fit into a Pamper size 7, though I have 2 problems; maybe you can give advice. If I get excited I stick out a lot, so is there a way to make it so I don't get excited right away once diapered? Second, [sic]it that the tape tends to break on one side making it usless[/sic].

Think about macroeconomics, international corporate tax laws, how paperclips are manufactured, or some other topic that you find to be utterly and dreadfully, irredeemably boring. Other than that, if your body sends a strong enogh stimulus signal from the brain to the penis, it's going to do what it wants to do. Inducing pain to the region might also distract you, but I wouldn't recommend this. As for the second question, I posted it as it was written (notice that I usually do edit and correct entries) because I was not able to parse this question; that is, I could not get at or discern what it was that you were asking, sorry.

Question #3:  Sometimes I like to put my penis down while in diapers but than I get erect upside-down... is this bad?

I don't think it's bad in the sense that it would cause any injuries or potency problems (though it might, I'm not a doctor, after all), but I can be certain that this would be uncomfortable. I'd just get some bigger diapers if you can so that you don't have to deal with these problems.

Question #4:  Have you ever poop so much that it came up in the front of the diaper?

Not since I was a little boy. It got to the front but not so much that it leaked out the top of the front.

Question #1:  My brother calls me lazy and also says that something's not right in my head. What should I say to him?

Sounds like he's a typical brother. If he is younger than you then you can just tell him to mind his own business. Does he think you're lazy because you wear diapers? I'm sure he's not perfect and you can probably find something that he is especially sensitive about and use this against him.

Question #1:  Do you wear your diapers anywere outside your home?

Sometimes I do, especially if my bowels feel unsettled, but most of the time I don't.

Question #2:  Do you use a laptop computer or desktop?

I use both, but at home I mostly use a desktop. The laptop is what I use away from home.

Question #3:  I have a Gateway. What is your computer? An HP, Gateway or some other brand name?

My desktop is a custom-built unit, so it isn't any particular brand. It has Windows XP all the other necessary hardware. My laptop is an Apple iBook G4.

Question #1:  Do you have an idea where is the best places were I could find boys over the age six wearing diapers?

If you mean pictures, you can find them online if you look hard enough. There are some web sites that post such pictures, but because they post other pictures that are more questionable and also seem to attract the creepos, I am reluctant to post any information about such sites.And if you mean actual boys, your best bet is your school or any other youth group that you belong to. For obvious reasons I am not going to solicit such information from other boys on this web site. If I had the means with which to provide a safe, parental approval-based way to facilitate the exchange such information I would consider it, but I just can't see that this sort of thing would be feasible.