Ask Deeker A Question (Responses)- September 2009

Question #1:  Hi deeker. How's everything going? I set up a youtube like site for diaper videos. It's already getting quite a few visitors. I was wondering if you could add it to your links page? Thanks Chad. http://abdltube.com is the url.

Looks good. Sure, I'll remember to add it when I finally get around to updating the links page (a project I am saving for when I get a week off from work later this month).

Question #1:  Do you think the trend for diapering children until later ages will continue upward?

I hope so (at least as far as boys are concerned)! Some parents "blame" disposable diapers for encouraging children to stay in diapers longer since children don't feel wetness in disposable diapers as readily as they do in cloth diapers. With the increasing advent of environmental awareness and "going green", some parents may go back to using cloth diapers to do their part to show their environmental awareness, which in turn could reverse the trend for increasing ages of toilet training. I'm all for going green and using cloth diapers (since I also like cloth diapers myself). Even if the average age of achieving toilet training ebbs, it's not all bad, since it would be more noteworthy to have a four-year-old "still" in diapers, whereas if the trend of increasing ages continues, people may one day not bat an eye at having a five-year-old in diapers.

Question #2:  Do you think the accepting of diaper usage in older children will also continue?

I would imagine that if long-term trends point to keeping children in diapers longer, the parents who raise their children in such generations will be more apt to accept it. The fact that so many things change is what makes old people grouchy, because people don't do things the way they were done "back in my day".

Question #1:  Do you think the trend for diapering children until later ages will continue upward?

I hope so (at least as far as boys are concerned)! Some parents "blame" disposable diapers for encouraging children to stay in diapers longer since children don't feel wetness in disposable diapers as readily as they do in cloth diapers. With the increasing advent of environmental awareness and "going green", some parents may go back to using cloth diapers to do their part to show their environmental awareness, which in turn could reverse the trend for increasing ages of toilet training. I'm all for going green and using cloth diapers (since I also like cloth diapers myself). Even if the average age of achieving toilet training ebbs, it's not all bad, since it would be more noteworthy to have a four-year-old "still" in diapers, whereas if the trend of increasing ages continues, people may one day not bat an eye at having a five-year-old in diapers.

Question #2:  Do you think the accepting of diaper usage in older children will also continue?

I would imagine that if long-term trends point to keeping children in diapers longer, the parents who raise their children in such generations will be more apt to accept it. The fact that so many things change is what makes old people grouchy, because people don't do things the way they were done "back in my day".

Question #1:  Are there quadruple-seated underwears?

Of course there are. Tiger Underwear has them.

Question #2:  Is it possible to hypnotize my brother into getting me diapers?

It's possible, but then, so is winning the lottery. He would have to be willing to submit to hypnosis, and you would have to be a skilled hypnotist. Forget what you've seen in the movies. I don't think it's possible to hypnotize someone to do something for you while he's in his sleep.

Question #3:  Do you have a glow in the dark paci because I heard that those were cool?

I didn't know they even existed. They do look like they would be a neatnovelty item.

Question #1:  Do you think all teenage boys should go back to diapers?

Not really. If it were normal for all boys (teenage or younger) to wear diapers, there would be no reason to get excited over diapers. All girls have to wear tampons or pads for at least a few days out of the month and everyone accepts this fact of life. That said, any boy who does not keep his pants clean or can't wipe his butt should be put in diapers, as should any boy whose mischievous behavior warrants diaper punishment.

Question #2:  Should friends' moms have the right to spank and regress naughty teens?

If the boy's parents approve, I'd say yes, but I would not approve of the parents of a boy's friend to spank him without consent from the parents of the boy himself.

Question #3:  Do you think schools should hire more nurses to put boys in diapers?

Only if there is a sufficient proportion of boys wearing diapers in a school would this be justified.

Question #4:  In a relationship should the skimpier the panties translate to the thicker the diaper?

Absolutely! If you, the boy, have on multiple cloth diapers, she should wear the skimpiest T-back that she can find. When it comes to boys and their sisters (or their girlfriends, there should be an inverse relationship between the boys' diapers and the girls' underwear (1/x). Keep in mind that there are some limits, of course, as the girl should never wear more than one pair of panties, while the boy should never wear less than a single diaper, or six pairs of white briefs. Obviously, if the girl is completely naked, then it would not be practical for the boy to wear an infinite amount of diapers, but the maximum thickness possible should be applied in such cases.

Question #1:  Hey Deeker, does Tiger Underwear deliver to UK adresses? (Without the shipping charge being sky-high)

Yes, they will deliver to the UK. Their web site says, "We proudly ship to all global destinations using First Class Mail International." If you have more questions you can send them an email.

Question #2:  If not, do you know any similar products to the thick boys training briefs and plastic pants that can be obtained in the UK?

Your best bet may be to find someone on eBay in the UK who sells them. Nothing definite came up when I ran a Google search.

Question #3:  Ideally, do you know any of the vendors that supply these boys training briefs (and maybe plastic pants as well) where you can pay on delivery?

Not that I know of off the top of my head, sorry.

Question #1:  I have a brother who is a year younger then me. I wet the bed and he gets all annoying. I try and use force on him but he is just as strong as me.

I assume you mean he gets annoying because of the fact that you wet the bed (and he apparently does not). Since you wear diapers (possibly Goodnites or Underjams), why not toss a wet one in his face next time he gets out of line? I'm assuming you and your brother get along for at least part of the time and that the antics and shenanigans you exchange is all just part of the sibling rivalry that naturally exists in most families. Your brother must have some issues of his own that you could exploit (phobias, odd behaviors, tastes and preferences, hobbies or other activities that you don't agree with him on). While I don't want to encourage you and him to try outdoing each other, and I know it's not my place to mediate other family's disputes, I know that "boys will be boys". Just don't do anything that could cause physical harm to anyone or is illegal.

Question #2:  Could my bro also have a fetish if I have one?

Possibly. On sheer chance I would not count on it, and I don't think such tendencies are genetic, but if you are curious and you have reason to suspect that he might have a diaper fetish, try to look for evidence of such interests (including browser history).

Question #1:  Hey Deeker! Love you site, keep up the good work!

Thanks again! My pleasure.

Question #2:  First question is, Do you know where to buy adult baby bottles? Because I keep ending up in costume stores, and I don't know if those are functional

They're not easy to find, as I determined for myself. Nonetheless, here is a link to a place that sells real, functional adult-sized baby bottles

Question #1:  Hey, it's me, Jordan. Well, I kind of got caught on this website. My daddy got on the computer and had seen the website. He thinks everyone who goes on this website are sick pervs (or something like that). I don't think so. By the way, this happened a long time ago. I know you might be offended by this but what he said really got me f-ing mad!

Unfortunately, the sheer, utter and often and inexcusably willful ignorance that your dad and others so unabashedly demonstrate by immediately dismissing the nature of this web site as being "sick" or "perverted" is not easy to overcome, so I wouldn't bother fighting this battle. It's natural for people to fear what they do not understand or to draw flimsy conclusions from their selective, precursory analyses, so to deal with this fear, rather than taking the time to look into the web site some more, they are quick to slap a "sick" or "perverted" label on it and be smugly satisfied with making such a rash judgement that helps them to feel vindicated or justified in their feelings. Their pitifully shallow thinking is somewhere along the lines of, "I'm so glad I'm a normal person and not one of those weirdos who's into diapers (eecch, all that stinky pee and poop!) I'm so normal, so nobody can criticize me for being weird or crazy. Yep, that's me." Your dad just does not understand the sexual feelings that you and many other boys your age and much younger yet get from wearing diapers. Because the web site acknowledges the fact that people under the magically arbitrary age of 18 (when it instantly becomes okay to talk about having sexual feelings) have sexual feelings, too, the topic is considered taboo by parents whose mass hysteria towards the notion of preteens and teens having sexual feelings leads them to conclude that anyone who approaches the topic must be some kind of nutjob. If you have a good relationship with your dad otherwise, I wouldn't risk ruining it by dwelling on your feelings towards his objections about this web site.

Question #2:  Referring to June 30, I had asked you a question about me telling my friend about my diaper fetish. No, I didn't.

I'm sure you had your reasons to hold off, and if you don't feel that it would be right to tell your friend, I won't blame you one bit.

Question #3:  Still referring to June 30th, you were possibly thinking that I do wear diapers. No, I don't, but I still love the website. you do a good job on it.

That's cool, and thanks! Maybe someday you will get a chance to get some diapers of your own.

Question #4:  It kinda sucks how I can't wear diapers but I had made my own and it was cool.

Sometimes this is what you have to do. It's better than having nothing, after all.

Question #1:  How would you ask a girl to baby you?

This depends on a number of factors: How long have you known the girl? How close is your relationship to the girl? How much do you really, honestly trust this girl? Does she seem like the kind of girl that would go for this sort of thing (e.g. not overly religious)? If you have a sexual relationship with her, you might suggest having her baby you as a way to enhance your sexual activities. If you are afraid to tell her up front and you and her exchange love letters, perhaps you could mention it in one of these writings.

Question #2:  I've always wanted to be diapered but I don't know whom to ask because I'm scared. Should I ask my mom or a friend?

I'd ask a trusted friend first, especially since your parents seem to not approve of you wearing diapers (as I indicated in my response to your third question). Your friend doesn't have as much, if any control over your life, so you don't have as much to lose (other than perhaps risking loss of the friendship itself). Your friend can't grant you permission, but it sounds like you need someone to talk to about your desires, so I'd go to the friend.

Question #3:  I want to wear diapers more but I'm afraid to ask my parents, but they know I like diapers. How should I ask them?

Your parents already know, and apparently since they already know, but yet you are faced with the prospect of asking them about wearing diapers, I can only surmise that they have clearly indicated having objections towards this sort of activity. If they are at all open to the discussion, ask them what their objections are and help them to overcome their objections. If they're dead-set against it and will not discuss the matter, you'll only be fighting a losing battle trying to get them to accept, which means you'll either have to respect their feelings and wear diapers in secrecy, or go against their feelings and assert your own feelings and desires. Since you are 17 you may be heading off to college in a year or so, at which point you may not even have to deal with your parents for much longer. If you expect to continue living with them until you strike out on your own, you'll have to decide which course of action is best to take.

Question #4:  What's the best kind of diaper that you can find at stores?

Depend is probably your best, if not only choice (Attends disappeared from store shelves several years ago). In-store brands (Walgreen's, Rite- Aid, etc.) have been reported with mixed results. I'd just try one brand out, and if you are dissatisfied with it, try something else.

Question #1:  Out of all the fun stuff that's out there for an 8-year-old boy, why do I prefer diapers?

We like things that make us feel good-- it's natural-- and for a lot of boys, diapers definitely do this for them. Boys' bodies respond to the tactile sensations of diapers because they're soft and fluffy, plus a lot of boys like the way they they look on them and other boys, too, being all bulky and white and covering the right places. You like diapers, sure, but certainly you must also have other interests. Diapers are just one of those unusual things that stands out amongst your interests because chances are your friends and your brothers (if you have any) do not likely share this particular interest.

Question #2:  Why do I think it is fun to wear disposables diapers?

That's about like someone asking me why I like pizza. It tastes good, that's why. Okay, so why does it taste good? Let's see, there's cheese (mozzarella and cheddar), I like that. There's pepperoni, and that's good, too, (ground beef or sausage is a nice addition, too), and of course there's plenty of zesty tomato sauce and soft, flaky crust. It all comes together to make something that I find is very tasty and satisying to eat (and all four food groups are represented, too!). The same can be said of heavy metal music. Each of the elements that it uses come together to form a combination that is utmostly pleasing. It's loud, intense and fast and engaging. It focuses on dark themes and makes one think. I'd gladly listen to this over some sub-three-minute light and peppy vapid, low-substance, feel-good upbeat pop-40 catchy tune that has a good beat and you can dance to it. If you're like me, there are probably many individual things you like about diapers. You probably like the way diapers feel on your body and you probably like how they look, too (like thick white boys' underwear standing out so prominently from your crotch and butt). Maybe you enjoy being semi-naked by not wearing pants with your diapers (as you indicated you are usually pantsless). Maybe you feel specially privileged by getting to wear diapers when most other boys your age don't, and even if they mock you, you feel good for enjoying what they're missing out on. You didn't indicate having any sisters, but maybe you like the thought of girls seeing you in your diapers. Maybe you like the way diapers make you feel like a baby, free of responsibility and in the care of someone else. Maybe you like the word "diaper". Perhaps, like the pizza, it's a combination of several individual pleasures that come together nicely in one neat package for an ultimately satisfying sensation.

Question #1:  Hi Deeker, here is my question: If you had a son and he asked you if he could wear diapers again what would you say and what would your reaction be?

If I had it my way, of course I'd let him wear diapers and carry it out to Deekerian-level proportions if he wanted it; otherwise, I'd let him wear diapers on his own terms (though I would gladly offer suggestions to him if he asked). Since I would probably have a wife (unless I were divorced and he came to visit me), I would have to contend with her feelings in case she had any objections. I would be sensitive to concerns towards how this would affect his social life in school and advise him accordingly.

Question #2:  Just out of random, do you know what brand of diapers came out first?

According to my research it was Pampers, which were introduced in 1961.  Luvscame along in 1976. Bringing up the rear (hah!) is Huggies, which came along in 1978.

Question #1:  Is it okay for my sister to diaper punish me when I'm bad?

Of course it is. If she has been delegated to have authority over you, this is how it has to be.

Question #2:  What do you think about my mom strictly following your diaper boy rules?

I think this is remarkable. I know my diaper boy rules are quite extreme, so I am impressed that someone is actually following them. I'd like to hear from her (or you, if you would rather contact me personally).

Question #3:  My mom still thinks I'm her baby boy. Should I just go diapers 24/7?

Only if you are comfortable to wear diapers for your own gratification. Treating you like her baby boy may be fine in fantasy stories, but in the real world it's just not right to have such relations with one's children if it is forced upon them, even if you are almost 18 years old.

Question #4:  Should I ask my mom to start breastfeeding me again?

Your call. Personally, I'm squicked out by the idea of a boy in his late teens breastfeeding off of his mother, but if you and your mother mutually benefit from this exchange and it's not performed in a sexual context, I guess there's nothing really wrong with it, I suppose.

Question #1:  Deeker, I am a 13-year-old boy who has always dreamed of being a diaper boy, but I am too afraid of what my mum and dad and brothers will think of me and I don't have enough time or money to secretly buy diapers. What should I do?

You can always put on a bunch of white boys' underwear (if you wear tighty whities like a good boy should). Since you can't get to a store, why not come up with a good explanation and then see how your family reacts? Maybe let them see you wearing a bunch of underwear (no pants). I know this is much easier said than done, but you are going to create more anxiety wondering how they might react and never find out. Best to go through with it and know for sure. Don't expect a positive response, but if they are open to the idea you might be able to work something out. If you can start a dialog, this is a good start. You're 13 now. Before you know it, you will be 18, and if you don't make a move, you will look back upon your boyhood and see this as a squandered opportunity.