Ask Deeker A Question (Responses)- October 2009

Question #1:  My girlfriend knows I like wearing diapers but she doesn't like it and and has asked me to stop. I have told her I stopped but I still wear them without her knowing. I know she would leave me if she found out but I don't want to lose her, but at the same time I don't want to give up wearing diapers. What should I do?

The easiest thing to do, of course, is to simply not wear diapers when she's around, but I realize there is a chance that she could find your diapers or some other evidence. If she does, hopefully she will be willing to talk about it, and if she is, hear her out and listen to her concerns. Then tell her that you can't just stop wearing diapers. If she smokes, ask her if she could just give up smoking, or eating her favorite food as a way to help her understand. As tough as it may sound, if she values her relationship with you, she would have to accept the fact that you like to wear diapers. If she ends up breaking up with you on account of you wearing diapers, I know that would suck, and the heartbreak would be painful, but you would have to move on and hope that the next girl (if you should decide to pursue one), will be more understanding. Finding women who understand diaper fetishes are not easy to come by, unfortunately. I also know how much of a burden it is to keep things like this a secret from people who spend a lot of time around you but you don't want them to know this. If you and her are just starting out I'd wait awhile and try to keep her away from finding out, but if and when your relationship has matured and once you and her know more about each other, perhaps at that time you could let her know that you love her and you respect her feelings, but at the same time you have to still do the things that you enjoy doing that don't involve her, just as I am sure that she doesn't want to give up some of the things that she enjoys doing that would not involve you. I'm no Ann Landers or Dr. Phil, but that's as good as I can do with this one, so I really hope it all works out.

Question #1:  Of all the surveys and questions of the week on the site, how many of them have you actually answered yourself?

I've probably answered about a couple dozen of them or so.

Question #1:  Did you wear Underoos when you were a kid?

Nope. All my underwear was plain white, the way God intended for boys� underwear to be.

Question #2:  Do you like the smell of baby powder and baby oil?

Love it! Who wouldn�t like it?

Question #1:  What is the best diaper to prevent leaking?

I don't have any immediate answers. When I get the diaper ratings posted again this should help you to determine which diapers work best for you.

Question #2:  Can I get Underjams in Europe? And where can I [get them]?

If they aren't on the shelves in major stores, probably not. Maybe they go by a different brand (e.g. Goodnites are known as Drynites in the UK). Wikepedia (I know it's not the be-all-end-all source of information, but it's quick and handy) doesn't say anything.

Question #1:  Do you think that Goodnites should make a traditional style diaper and why?

Of course. A lot of boys want to wear diapers, full-fledged diapers. Why not let the market respond to the demand?

Question #2:  Do you have any thoughts on the future of Pampers and Huggies diapers and pull-ups?

They've probably gotten them down to about as thin as they'll ever be (God, I hope they don't make them even thinner than they already are). As people continue to become more environmentally conscious, people might start using cloth diapers more again, in which case the major diaper manufacturers would have to respond to changing market conditions.

Question #3:  Do you remember a Pampers commercial from the 70's, geared towards toddlers, that had the phrase "When you have time to spare, you have Pampers!" or something like that. I would love to see the commercial again.

I don't recall ever seeing such a commercial. I'd check Youtube every now and then for it. If you come across it, send me a link (unless it only has girls in it).

Question #4:  Some of the Links needs to be relocated. There are several abdl links in the youth section.

I know, I know. The whole links section needs to be updated. Maybe I can concentrate on it if there's a lean story week.

Question #1:  How did you come up with the idea of All Boys Belong in Diapers

The article was motivated by my contact with some boys and their sisters who live in Texas. All the boys in their and the girls within their family staunchly agree with my Deekerian worldview. Ever since then my development of the Deekerian worldview has expanded and evolved.

Question #2:  Has your idea affected you in any way as a young boy or later on in life?

It greatly affected my sexual development. When I discovered masturbation and understood my sexual thoughts and feelings they were focused on boys being diapered by girls, whereas most boys simply thought about naked girls and having sex with them. Because I was slow to recognize girls the way everyone else did a lot of classmates thought that I was gay, so I went through a lot of hell because of this. Once I "came out" and opened myself up to girls I realized how woefully unprepared I was for talking to girls. As a result I had few girlfriends and had to rely on a friend from another high school to fetch me a girlfriend. Counting her, I have only known four people whom I have regarded as my girlfriend (several others have been platonic dates that never went anywhere). Since I am likely to remain single, and because my feelings about diapers are so deeply ingrained into my sexuality, I would say that this has greatly affected my adult life.

Question #3:  Have you given any thought of updating the site. Like to add a Story Makers Fourm where people share their stories and such?

It might seem like a good idea on paper (or virtual paper, such as it is), but given the mess of crappily written half-baked submissions that I already get (though my taking an aggressive stance against such stories seems to have helped), I can only imagine that such a forum would just produce more of the same. While I could moderate such a forum and delete anything that I didn't want to have on the site, the poor writing quality that I would likely see would drive me nuts. That said, with some thought towards how to organize and maintain it, it may be a good idea.

Question #4:  If you were the ruler of Planet Earth for 24 hours what Rules/Laws would you make

Absolutely no toilet training of boys would be allowed. All boys would be expected to wear diapers and only diapers (and a shirt) except in cold weather or other special occasions. Boys would not wear pajamas to bed. All girls not toilet trained by age three would be required to go through specialized training. Any girl who had to wear a diaper could do so only for strictly medical reasons and would have to keep it hidden and discreet at all times. Boys' boxers and colored briefs would no longer be made and only tighty whities would be made. Any boy who wore them would have to wear at least 12 pairs at a time. In other areas, in no particular order-- rap music would be abolished. Christmas advertising and displays could not appear until 12:01 AM Friday after Thanksgiving. No employer could make his or her employees work on Christmas or Thanksgiving if they did not want to work those days. Telemarketing would be abolished, as would junk mail, except when requested and only when requested. All spammers would be subjected to six months of nonstop torture before being left to rot and die in a dark, cold cell. Intentionally harming a cat would be a felony, punishable by life in prison without parole or death, depending on the severity of the offense. Any movie or cartoon depicting a cat getting harmed would be banned and anyone involved in its production would be prosecuted. Speed limits in most areas would be increased by 5-15 m.p.h. except in areas where it really does need to be set where it is. Beer and all other television advertising of alcohol would be banned. If they can do this with cigarettes they can do it with beer. Print ads would be allowed but would also have to carry a prominent warning from the Surgeon General. Weather reporters would be required to present the forecast in an objective manner and not presume that everyone likes sunny weather and hates rainy weather. Fat women would be promoted as being sexy. That's about all I can think of for now. It won't be a perfect world, but these moves would make my own life more pleasant.

Question #1:  Do you have a diaper fetish?

I think this web site is ample evidence of that.

Question #1:  I want do go out in public wearing a diaper. but I have two big problems- my mom and dad don't know I wear, and two, leaking. How can I hide the diaper from my parents but still use it?

Do you have your own bedroom? Do you have a trunk, box or some other place where you can stash your private stuff? How about under the bed? If you look around your bedroom I�m sure you can come up with some place to hide your diapers. For leaks, choosing a name-brand diaper over a generic or off-brand diaper would help. You might want to stuff paper towels or a smaller diaper inside of the larger one to give it more absorbancy.

Question #1:  I have a upcoming trip and my mom is making my little brother wear diapers. This is my chance for myself to get my hand on a pack, but what can I say to my mom without her thinking I'm weird? I truly need your help.

How old is your little brother? If he�s old enough that he doesn�t usually wear diapers, but he is wearing them for this trip, then you have an easy in on this one. If your little brother feels bad about having to wear diapers, offer to wear diapers yourself to make him feel better. Or, you could just say that you�d like to wear diapers, too, and make it almost sound like you�re joking, just enough to create some doubt as to whether or not you�re serious, and then see how your mom reacts.

Question #1:  Do you masturbate in you diaper?

Yes.

Question #2:  Why do you think boys belong in diapers and not girls? Explain.

My sisters greatly influenced my feelings towards diapers at a young age, and through their frequent teasing me and their presentation of themselves as being cleaner and more mature, I accepted my fate as a boy and thus my need for diapers (multiple pairs of underwear). Having realized how much I liked to be diapered and how I felt that, as a boy, I deserved to be diapered because of my frequent pooping accidents, I felt that other boys, because of the fact that boys tend to start later and take longer to become toilet trained, that boys outnumber girls 2 to 1 in bedwetting, and that the vast majority of children who have encopresis are boys, these facts further justified my feelings about diapers and boys. Even as a young boy, girls impressed me as being cleaner and better dressed as they were more concerned about their clothes and their looks, so the end result of these influences is the formation of my Deekerian worldview in which boys are immature, impulsive and less concerned about hygiene and cleanliness, whereas girls are mature, refined, responsible and more concerned for their own cleanliness and appearance. A girl wearing diapers (and presumably for the reasons that a boy would wear diapers) goes against every facet of this deeply entrenched and established Deekerian worldview, and to me it is only appropriate for boys to wear diapers.

Question #3:  Do you change your own diaper?

Yes.

Question #1:  Is it okay if I were to take a part of an idea you had in Forever in Diapers and use it to write a story on what I feel? (nothing bad)

Sure, go ahead. I think it would be fun to see "fanfic" based on my own stories (just as long as all Deekerian rules are adhered to, of course).

Question #1:  Hey Deeker, love the sight. When is the contributed story Choose Your Own Diaper Adventure going to be updated again? I really liked the story and where it was going.

Thank you, glad you like it. As for the story, the author has not submitted any new material, but hopefully he will see this message from you and be motivated to continue it some more.

Question #2:  I don't wear diapers anymore but still visit this site just to read the stories and sightings but I sometimes have the urge to want to wear a diaper, do you have any advice for me on what I should do?

Why not wear diapers? There's no harm in wearing them, and of course they are perfectly legal and don't screw with your body or your mind as drugs and alcohol would do. The urge will always be there, so there is no use fighting it.

Question #3:  This is a little note for Trevor, I hope you are reading this.... please update us on your trip to Disneyworld and if you ever told your mom about also wanting to wear a diaper and the outcome... do you agree with me, Deeker?

Yes, as you will see down below I have asked Trevor to provide us with a detailed True Account on his experiences with diapers while at Disneyland. Hopefully he will fulfill this request.

Question #1:  Have you ever thought of having a page for boys to leave pictures of themselves wearing diapers?

Sorry, but there is absolutely no way I could ever have anything like this on my site. I don't even have pictures (photos) of diapered boys on the site at all. To openly request such photos would just be asking for trouble.

Question #1:  Do you have a diaper fetish?

I would think that this website, the stories I have written and posted on it, and all the other diaper- related material that you see here would be a pretty clear indication of my having a diaper fetish.

Question #1:  Since I want my diapers to show I am going around Disneyland with no underwear over my diapers; have you ever done this?

Underwear over underwear? Yes. Underwear over diapers? No.

Question #2:  Do you ever let your diaper show in public?

I try not to let it show, but if it does, and people are surprised, that's what they get for looking. I'm not out there to get myself posted in the sightings, after all.

Question #3:  How come you only made this site for boys?

The obvious answer, of course, is because I am male. I only relate to situations involving boys who wear diapers. When I was a little boy I was the only one in my family who had accidents (the pooping kind) and my sisters teased me about it a lot and attributed it to the fact that I was a boy. They bragged about getting to wear pants when all I had on were several pairs of white underwear, which they sometimes referred to as my diapers, so my own sisters had a lot of influence in this area. As I got older and became more familiar with my developing diaper fetish it seemed that it was only appropriate for boys to wear diapers and these feelings have persisted throughout my life.

Question #4:  Did you wear diapers as a kid, if so what kind did you prefer?

Other than as a baby? I wore training pants (the thick, white cotton training pants) after I was four years old. While I was dubiously declared potty trained I still had a lot of poop accidents, so, having outgrown training pants, I wore several pairs of plain white boys' briefs (usually 12 pairs or so, sometimes more).

Question #1:  Can I wear diapers at 25?

Of course you can. Lots of people at age 25 and much older do.

Question #1:  Do you masturbate in your diaper?

Of course. I would imagine that most boys and adult males who wear diapers for fun (and perhaps those who have to wear diapers for medical reasons) do so, either because it is not practical to remove the diapers or more convenient to leave the diapers on, or, because the diapers are an essential component to the experience.

Question #1:  Thanks, Deeker. My mom and dad are letting me wear diapers to Disneyland!

Congratulations! When you get back from your trip, perhaps you can submit a detailed True Account on your Disney excursion detailing all the diaper-related matters. Be sure to include information on how you got your parents to let you wear diapers. Other people (see above) have also shown interest in the details of this trip.

Question #2:  I'm wearing diapers on the trip but can you give me tips? Like, should I carry extra diapers around the park? And my mom said that I can use wipes instead of toilet paper. Is there a special kind you recommend? I picked out Kandoos

It definitely would not hurt to carry extra diapers. Better to have them and not need them than vice versa. I don't know much about wipes, but I'm sure the Kandoo wipes will work just fine.

Question #3:  I want my diapers to show while I'm at the park but I don't know which ones are high rise. I can wear Pull-ups, Underjams, and Goodnites.

You'd have to wear loose pants or shorts that allow your diapers to show (and I wouldn't do it in the same sort of way that �saggers� do it if you can avoid it, looks too "trendy" and the exposure is articially forced; doesn't look natural). Pull-Ups would likely be too small to show, and Goodnites and Underjams are designed to be discreet, so they probably would not rise up any higher than necessary. Your best bet is to get diapers that are a size larger, but can still be fastened on tightly enough. Wear a short, shirt, too.

Question #4:  Does double diapering always help from not leaking?

As long as the diapers are on tightly enough, the more padding you have always helps. As for whether or not double-diapering always prevents leaking, nothing like that can be guaranteed.

Question #1:  A friend of my asked the same question. The only way I can get to the store is if some came with me, but here's the catch: I have a mom, dad and my younger sister and brother twins and they both wear diapers. How can I get around all of them to grab my diapers without anyone seeing?

Since your brother twins wear diapers (how old are they, by the way?), could they help you in any way? Or are they too young to do this? If you have to do it away from your family, about your only chance is to pretend that you have to go to the bathroom. At age 14 I wouldn't expect your parents to have someone accompany you, but if they do, and you can never have a moment of solitude while in a store, then I'm not sure what else to suggest.

Question #2:  How can I make myself feel like a baby?

Without undergoing hypnosis or using mind-altering substances (VERY, VERY DEFINITELY NOT RECOMMENDED!!!), you just have to relax and pretend that you are a baby. Just use your make-believe skills that you likely used when you were younger.

Question #1:  Should schools put boys in diapers and baby attire during detention?

As good of a fantasy as this might be, I don't think that there would be any practical reasons for a school to do this. A lot of parents would be up in arms at the idea and the school would likely face lawsuits and other problems. Sorry for the reality check.

Question #2:  How should a teenage boy be dressed during diaper punishment?

Diapers (obviously), no pants, shirt optional.

Question #3:  Do you think Pampers should advertise towards teenage boys?

It would be a bold move, but I think that it could be possible for Pampers (or other major diaper brand) to manufacture and openly market diapers for teenage boys. I just wouldn't count on seeing anything like this in the near future.

Question #4:  What do you think of a store having a deal for buying panties and diapers?

I assume you mean plastic pants and not "panties" (which I think of as girls' underwear, which is why I am highly averse to using this word in any other context, especially towards boys and their diapers). In any case, I'm not quite sure where you are going with this one.

Question #1:  Do you ever wonder about wearing diapers in public?

I wear diapers in public from time to time, but mostly because I tend to have loose bowels and after I eat is when the urge comes on really strong.

Question #2:  I wear them in public all the time but my parents don't know I wear. How can I use the diapers without them leaking or my parents knowing? (P.S. I don't wear adult diapers, I wear Underjams and XXL Pull-ups).

I'd consider putting on a second diaper or augmenting your diaper with paper towels or some other stuffer to increase absorbency. Your other alternative is to get some plastic pants and slip them on over your diaper(s). Last I checked (which was just a few minutes ago on the Pull-Ups web site), Pull-Ups don't come in "XXL" size. The sizes are labeled 2T, 3T, 4T and 5T.

Question #1:  I want to wear diapers again; should I tell my mom?

That depends on what you hope to gain by letting her know and what the chances are that she will approve or at least listen to you. I really would need to have more information to be of any help to you on this one.

Question #1:  There is a story in Contributed Stories called Diapered at the Daycare. For some weird reason I try go in to the file it then says (file is wrecked, cannot open) I have read that story like 20 times. It's really good. Can you check that out and please try to fix it?

It comes up just fine for me. Try it again: http://www.deeker.com/Contrib/D/diapered_at_the_daycare.html

Question #1:  Hi. I'm David and I'm new to this site and I have been reading Forever in Diapers. When do you plan on finishing it?

Thank you, and welcome! With some time off from work coming up I would like to get some more work done on it. I don't want to set a date or a specified goal, but I would like to finish it over the next few months or so. I don't have that much farther to go, relatively speaking, and it's mostly a matter of bridging the gap between what is going on in the story now and how I plan to end the story.

Question #2:  I would like to tell mommy and daddy I want to wear diapers out in the open 24/7; any suggestions? Right now I only wear them when mommy and daddy are gone.

I'm not clear on whether or not your parents know that you wear diapers in the first place. It sounds like you want to know if you can wear just your diapers without pants on when your parents are not around. If they don't like you to wear just your diapers around then you will have to deal with this either by asking them, or just doing it and dealing with the consequences (i.e. punishment, scolding).

Question #3:  Which diapers do you like? and what do you like to do in them?

I like cloth diapers, the kind that pull on like underwear. I like to poop in them, but I also use them for pee, plus I do other things that older boys like to do in their diapers.

Question #4:  Is there a summer camp for boys who wear diapers?

There is a place called Camp Brandon, which is located in New Hampshire. I'd provide links, but when I had the camp's web site linked they asked me to take the link down, so you'll have to Google "Camp Brandon for Boys" for more information. I'm sure other bedwetter's camps exist, too (as would camps for boys who wear diapers for other reasons, such as bowel incontinence).

Question #1:  Have you ever wet a diaper so much it leaked?

Oh yeah, it's happened. Chances are it's happened to just about anyone who wears diapers regularly.

Question #2:  Have you ever gotten your diaper changed by someone else?

Not since I was four years old.