Ask Deeker A Question (Responses)- May 2009

Question #1:  Have you ever thought about putting a chat room on this site?

Thought about it? Yes. As for atually putting it into practice, probably not. I wouldn't have the time to maintain or moderate a live chat room. I did try having a message board on the site, but nobody posted anything on it so I scrapped the idea.

Question #1:  Is there a way to get your parents to get you diapers other then peeing and pooping yourself and faking it?

You could always just ask them, but I realize that's much easier said than done. If you really want to be defiant about it, why fake it? Just pee and poop yourself on purpose, but again, I know that this isn't the best advice, either. Seriously, though. My advice would be to take an honest approach. Lying or faking your reasons will likely ultimately get you caught in the end. You might be subtle about it and let yourself get caught; that might be the best "honest" way to do it.

Question #1:  I'm looking for a website with stories a bit more mature and into restraints.

The first one that comes to mind is Aby.com. It requires registration, and you do have to certify that you're at least 18 years old, but it's free.

Question #1:  Are you gay? I ask this because you are only interested in boys in diapers.

I am not gay, but I can understand why you might think this when my interests in diapers is obviously centered around boys. It is important to understand, however, that many "Deekerian" principals are centered around girls dominating boys by inducing sexual tension in these boys, tensions which the boys can only release through their diapers. I find scenarios involving girls seeing boys in diapers, changing their diapers and having complete control over these boys to be far more satisfying than scenarios where no girls are present. Please take a moment to read my article,The Girls' Guide to Deekerianism for a better understanding.

Question #1:  Hey Deeker, thank you for helping me with my friend Hannah. I did what you said and asked If I could put the diaper on myself. She then said, "You don't want me to see you naked?" I did't care if she saw me naked because I am the size of a 5-yea- old and it would be just like diapering a baby, so now she babies me 100%, like stroller rides, spanking, eating baby food from a high chair and much more. (Now my Question) Can you give me 5 tips on ways I can prevent getting Diaper Rash? I wear Huggies Supreme Natural Fit.

That is great. I am pleased that you and others seem to be following my advice. Apparently you overcame any inhibitions you might have had before, so this is good. To prevent diaper rash, keep the following in mind: Don't remain in wet or poopy diapers for longer than necessary. If you are prone to diaper rash you might need to be changed in the middle of the night. Make sure your genitals and your butt are thoroughly cleaned when your diapers are changed. If you are sensitive to fragrances and chemicals in wipes then you may need to just have warm water and a cloth used. Your diaper changer should pat your diaper area instead of wipe it when drying it off. Use Desitin or some other zinc oxide-based cream or ointment. If you can, wear your diapers more loosely to allow some air to get to the skin. If you were to wear cloth diapers they should be washed in a non-fragrance detergent. If possible, go without plastic pants since they trap in heat and moisture, but I know this isn't always a good idea.

Question #1:  How often do you update the "links" page?

Not often enough. Admittedly, it's a tedious task, and with not a lot of new diaper pages being made anymore there isn't as much motivation to update the links page. That said, I plan to update it within the next few weeks or so.

Question #1:  Thanks for your help, I love this site!!

Excellent! Great to know you like it!

Question #1:  Have you seen or heard of kids 6 years old or older wearing diapers, not the ones with special needs?

In real life, it happens, but it's not common. A friend of mine had a son who wore diapers and Goodnites until he was at least ten years old (I never saw him at bedtime after this age since my friend had moved about 20 miles away and I rarely see him now, his son is 19 now, by the way). As for full-time diaper-wearers, in my adult years I've never known any children without special needs who wore diapers, though one time at the gas station I did see a boy who looked to be about six years old with a diaper showing above his shorts. The closest case of a boy past the age of six wearing diapers that I saw up close and personal came when I was in junior high school. In the boys' locker room I saw a boy wearing several pairs of white underpants for his diapers and he smelled of poop, but even then, it was inconclusive whether or not he was a "special needs" case since he attended special ed classes. I wrote about him (albeit mostly fictitiously) in my story What Might Have Been.

Question #1:  (Background cut short: My mother found out i liked diapers, took me to a psych. and they said i was abused as a child, which was later found as false) My first question is this; why is it that counselors/psyschs seem to have a connection between liking diapers and having been abused, as from what i have researched it seems to be considered the norm that if you like diapers you must therefore have been abused?

Counselors, psychologists and other mental health professionals have had extensive training, and others in their field have a vast array of case histories/studies in order to establish the patterns or tendencies that they see are likely indicators of child abuse (including sexual abuse), so it is reasonable for them to conclude that a desire to enjoy wearing diapers stems from a history of child abuse if this has been shown to be a common factor. While a desire to wear diapers alone is not enough to determine a high likelihood of abuse, perhaps there were other indications that gave the counselor you were taken to false positives. It's important to understand that psychology is not an exact science. While a chemist can always be certain that H2O will be water, a psychologist does not have the luxury of such certainties and pat givens in his field. A psychologist may have a checklist of items to examine possible child abuse, but a given set of such criteria being met from among such a list may not necessarily be correct.

Question #2:  Do you think the common aforementioned theory is true?

I am not a mental health professional myself, so I can't really validate or refute any such theories. Having been closely involved in matters related to diaper fetishism, however, I have read a number of accounts from people whose abuse in childhood manifested itself through wearing diapers. Some people wear diapers as a coping or defense mechanism (i.e. regression), which allows them to shut out adult problems and responsibilities by behaving child-like. For those who were sexually abused, the diapers themselves may have protected their bodies from harm, and soiling themselves may have made them less attractive or desireable to the person who was seeking them out for sexual purposes. It is quite an enigma in trying to understand why someone who was abused as a child would develop sexual feelings surrounding this form of abuse, but the experts all tend to agree that such cases are not uncommon, so I'll leave it to them to understand and interpret this phenomenon. While I personally feel that this theory is valid and has merit, if I were to say that the majority of people who like to wear diapers were abused as children I'd be painting with too broad of a brush.

Question #3:  (please do not feel obligated to answer if you wish not to) Why is it that you tend to like stories about teens in diapers rather then adults?

I enjoy stories about preteen and teen boys in diapers over stories about adults, for several reasons, including but not limited to the following: They have less control of their lives and are expected to submit to and obey their parents and other authority figures. They are far more impressionable at this age where diapers and nudity associated with wearing diapers will have a greater impact on their sexual development. They are more likely to have peeing and pooping accidents and will be less experienced with dealing with such matters. They are more apt to get into trouble and therefore be punished with diapers. Their lack of muscle mass and other bodily features of maturity make their diapers look more prominent on their smaller, lankier bodies. They look more appropriate in diapers since they are closer to looking like babies/toddlers than adults. Their wearing of diapers will have a much greater impression on their siblings, classmates and other peers of similar age and on themselves, whereas most adults are mature enough to not entertain such feelings and responses to seeing someone their age in diapers. If they do, it's all for play. Because young children (especially boys) are highly amused by potty humor, the topic of diapers is highly impressionable on them since diapers involve the genitals, the butt, pee, poop, farts, underwear, overall nudity and exposure and other pseudo-sexual and bodily/eliminatory elements. While such matters are highly impressionable on girls, girls in this same age range tend to see such things as gross and immature. Girls who have brothers who wear diapers are usually close in age and, as it would seem that girls have a natural maternal instinct, they are more apt to enjoy changing their brothers' diapers at this age, plus, it gives these girls a reason to feel better about themselves, which is very important to a lot of young girls. In my own experience, which is the experience of many others (but not everyone, I understand), my first sexual feelings came from my extended diaper-wearing and all of the things I associate with these memories (being pantless, wearing lots of white underwear for diapers, being teased by my sisters) ahave always been very exciting to me. Since these feelings are deeply rooted in my childhood I prefer to focus on this age level in stories and visual materials.

Question #1:  Should I be allowed to diaper myself?

I would say yes, since you are 16 I would expect most parents to pass this responsibility on to you unless you have physical handicaps that prevent you from doing so.

Question #2:  How do you feel about babysitters diapering and babying older teens?

An older teen really shouldn't need a babysitter in the first place, in my opinion. I'd say that it's the teen's call on this one. If he wants the babysitter to diaper him, it should be his choice. Also, if the babysitter is an adult, such consentual diaper changes must only be for practical purposes (no sexual intent).

Question #3:  Should I have to sit in a high chair at dinner if my younger non diapered siblings don't?

At your age, no, unless you want to.

Question #4:  Should my older sisters friends be allowed to mommy me?

Again, this is your call since I feel you are old enough to be in control of these matters.

Question #1:  How do you feel about diaper discipline on teens spending the night?

By the time a boy is in his teens (especially 15 and up), I personally feel he is too old for any sort of physical punishment (diaper discipline, spanking), but for a younger teen (13 and 14) if his behavior warrants the use of diapers as a disciplinary measure, I see nothing wrong with it.

Question #2:  Are multiple diapers more comfortable?

I think they are, assuming you're wearing mutiple diapers without any pants on. I enjoy the extra bulk. Some people might find the extra material to be less comfortable. This is one of those "your mileage may vary" situations.

Question #3:  If I'm an aspiring TB/DL how should my parents completely regress me?

In all honesty, I highly doubt that your parents would actually go to any lengths to "regress" you, especially if they aren't even aware that you wear diapers. This is the stuff of many a fantasy story, but I doubt it happens much in real life.

Question #4:  Is public diaper changing or spanking appropriate?

There's nothing wrong with public diaper changing as long as it is done in a restroom in a stall. A "public" diaper change where passersby can witness it, I don't think is appropriate. In some situations a diaper change in one's car, van, SUV, etc. is okay since this affords some degree of privacy.As for spanking, this should only be done in one's car where others do not hear the spanking or the child's reaction. Some people (myself included) shudder at listening to a child get spanked in public and I imagine there are others who feel the same way.

Question #1:  When you dated did you use diapers and plastic baby pants?

My dating experiences are few and far between. I did not tell any of my girlfriends about my diaper fetish. I did not stay with most of them for long enough to feel at ease with disclosing this big detail about my life to them. The only one I did date for a long time turned into such a bitch and she would not have likely understood it or accepted it. She would have likely told me to "get help".

Question #2:  Have you asked your girlfriends to put a clean diapers on you?

No, but if we got far enough into the relationship and she was cool with it, I might have let her do this.

Question #3:  Did your Mom put you in diapers for a date with your girlfriend?

No. By the time I finally started dating I was too old for my mother to have done such a thing, and even if I did date in my early-mid teens my mother would not have done this.

Question #4:  Did your Mom tell your girlfriend about you using diapers?

No. My mother did not see my girlfriends often and had little contact with them, again mostly due to the brief time the relationships usually lasted.

Question #1:  Last night I had a nightmare. I dreamt that I bought a large package online full of diapers for my fetish and I stupidly hid it in a full bathtub. Then, my mom found the package and scolded me. Plese help me interpret my diaper dream. I'm only 12 years old. Is this normal for kids that have fetishes like this to sometimes have nightmares like this? Thank you.

I'm not a dream analysis expert, but what you described sounds reasonable and normal to me. Obviously you are very concerned about the possibility of getting caught with diapers (whether or not you really did get some diapers), so these concerns are being manifested in your dreams. Nightmares themselves are normal, too, but if they become so frequent or severe that you are afraid to even go to sleep then you would have a more significant sleeping disorder that would require a doctor's attention

Question #1:  Do you just have diapers or do you have some of the other baby things like pacifiers?

I just have diapers, no baby things.

Question #2:  Do you wear disposable diapers, too, besides cloth diapers?

I only wear cloth diapers.

Question #3:  What is the best thing you like about your cloth diapers?

I like the plain white look and the feel of the thick, soft material. They are fondly reminiscent of the thick white cotton training pants I wore for so long because of my stubborn resistance to pooping in the toilet. I also like not having to go out and buy diapers all the time and filling up my trash with dirty diapers.

Question #1:  Being a longtime 'fan' of this site, I have been reading it weekly for several years and always look forward to the updates each week. Especially the 'true accounts' and 'sightings' (I have even posted a few). A couple years back this site was not updated for several months, and at the time I feared it had gone defunct. I have always wondered, what happend during that period and why there were no updates?

The site was not updated between July 31 and September 4, 2005. The reason for this longtime absence was that I did not have my computer available to me during this time and therefore could not post anything to my site. While I was still able to access the Internet via my laptop, I had to keep a low profile during this time for reasons I wish to not disclose here.

Question #1:  I have been having problems lately (actually my whole life) taking time to go poop in the toilet. I am looking to use a way (wear diapers after I eat) so that I can still be in control [of when I poop] but that will make me go more often. I looked on one of the articles you have in the "articles section" named 12 month diaper training program. do you thing I might could use some of the techniques there? My plan was to use a diaper after I eat so that I would not hold back as often therefore have a healtier colon.

Sure, I'd like to know how well these techniques work for you as individual results may vary. Please report back to me on your results.

Question #2:  I do appreciate the time and effort that you put in this site. by keeping it up, it keeps the quality and the credibility of the site good.

Thank you so kindly. Glad you like it.

Question #3:  Do you believe that there where diaper fetishes along time ago? (1800s -1900s)or do you believe that they have come about in the last half of the twentieth century due to the development of the disposable diaper?

I've thought about this myself. Of course there are diaper fetishists who developed their diaper fetishes from wearing cloth diapers, so the advent of disposable diapers didn't necessarily create diaper fetishism, but has given people with this preference a choice that people of prior generations did not have. Before diapers were in use people probably channeled these desires in other ways (domination, other clothing fetishes, scat fetishes, etc.) which I am sure existed then, but because of the way societies tended to persecute anyone who was out of line, such behaviors were likely kept a secret and not documented in early history.

Question #4:  After one poops in a diaper how soon should it be changed? what if you expect to poop more? Also what about pee?

This depends on how long you can stand to have a big, lumpy smelly warm mess in your diapers. Ideally, I'd say 15 minutes, 30 minutes tops. If you expect to poop more within a relatively short amount of time you might as well leave your dirty diapers on until such time their capacity is reached. Same goes for pee.

Question #1:  Do you listen to Slipknot or Children of Bodom?

Oh yes, definitely. I have a couple of Slipknot's CDs but I have a few Children of Bodom MP3s.

Question #2:  How many diapers do you use a day? How often do you change yourself?

Since I only wear diapers at home I only use 2 or 3 on most days (sometimes more when I wear them in multiples and it soaks through). I change myself twice a day.

Question #3:  Do you change yourself laying down or standing?

I stand to change myself. I wear pull-on style diapers.

Question #4:  Do diapers get costly for a 24/7 wearer?

For someone who has to wear diapers 24/7 for pee and poop I imagine it gets costly when you consider most decent disposable diapers price out at about one dollar per diaper. For those who wear cloth diapers, the costs are incurred in the initial outlay for the diapers themselves, plus the cost of detergent and the energy costs associated with washing and drying.

Question #1:  What is the best way to masturbate?

I assume you are asking me what is the best way to masturbate in diapers (as opposed to masturbating in general). I find it most enjoyable to use both hands and massage the outside of the front of the diapers. This works best when lying down on the bed with both legs in the air and spread apart.

Question #2:  I need to get back at my sister; got any ideas?

I'm curious what you wish to get back at your sister for. Assuming she is teasing you about your diapers, I'm sure you have been around your sister enough to know what she is most sensitive about (perhaps her weight, her appearance, etc.) While I don't ever encourage anyone to get into a battle of wits, I know that sibling rivalry is an inevitable part of family life. If you must get back at her (assuming she is, in fact, the instigator), try to make the punishment fit the crime. If she teases you about your poop smells, tease her about the smell when she farts. If she teases you about the size of your penis, make a comment about the size of her breasts (you indicate that you have one older sister, and since you're 11, she is likely old enough to start "filling out". If she teases you about your diapers, tease her about her underwear. If she teases you about not wearing any pants, tease her about the pants she wears. If she likes to talk on the phone, be a brat and listen in on an extension (cell phones, of course, make this impossible). Dis any boyfriends or boys she has a crush on, or if she denies having a boyfriend or a crush on a boy, insist that she does. There are lots of ways for a diaper boy to tease his sister back. What do you think inspired theQuestion of the Weekfor May 10, 2009? Yep, it was your question! Thank you so much for the idea!

Question #1:  My friend wants to wear diapers, but we know his parents would never let him, because they are very strict parents. I have been giving him some of my diapers behind both of our parents' back.

My advice would be to keep doing what you are doing. If they are strict parents and not likely to allow your friend to wear diapers then you'd probably be fighting a losing battle. You don't make it clear whether or not your parents know that you wear diapers (the information you provided on your diaper-wearing is contradictory, which makes your diaper situation even less clear), but perhaps if you get caught you might get your mother's or father's support for letting your friend wear diapers.

Question #2:  Can you post some rules for us Diaper Boys that are a bit more realistic?

What would you consider to be more realistic? About the only thing I can think of doing would be to take the existing rules and toning them down (e.g. letting boys wear pants at home if they choose, wearing thinner diapers, etc.)

Question #1:  Can you make a story about a teacher who acts sorta like a father to a student and starts babying him?

Sorry, but this story would peg the creep-o-meter just a tad too much for me to be comfortable writing it.

Question #2:  Are messy diapers uncomfortable?

Some people enjoy the feel of the mushy. lumpy warmth and wil savor it for a few minutes, but eventually it will get uncomfortable and a need for a diaper change will become imminent. Other people may not like the feeling at all and would therefore find it to be completely uncomfortable.