Ask Deeker A Question (Responses)- May 2009

Question #1:  Are you an English teacher?

While my numerous complaints about poor story writing might suggest that I am an English teacher, I'm not. I don't expect perfection, but some of the things that people send to me is far from acceptable. No English teacher would ever give any of these items a passing grade.

Question #2:  What is your paying job?

I work in a call center where cardholders with various financial institutions call us to redeem their points earned on their cards for travel. We book air travel, car rentals and hotel stays. Another department in another city handles cruises and vacation tours and packages.

Question #1:  Hello. I read your complaints about some of the story submissions you recieved (it was funny seeing how many people defied your rules and got rejected honestly) and I was wondering about the one with the kindergardners putting the 5th grader in the diapers (the only submission that day that I liked because of the kind of humiliation it intailed) does the implausability of that story count for every single submission now or are their certain guildlines? Like say the kindergardners were able to do it with the help of someone older, or by themselves at a sleepover while the 5th grader was asleep. I've been planning to eventually submit something on here so I wish to know what the boundry for realisim in fictional stories are (as I've seen some stories on here about wizards and magical spells and what not.) Also, that guy's story was way too short and poorly written anyhow as well as a few other craptastic ones on here about some of the anime and those foolish girl stories. You don't have to worry about that with me. I don't even like the mere mention of girls in diapers. Heh.

Thank you for taking the time to read my complaints. I know not everyone wants to read my rants and bitchings, but after last week's batch of submissions, it was definitely called for to air my feelings. It does amaze me how many people flaut the story guidelines. Perhaps I need to make a more prominent link, or at least point out the key areas on the story submission forms. Since the "kindergarten" story was submitted as a true account I just could not accept it as having much of a degree of plausibility. If the kindergarteners did have someone older than them assist them, then it might have more credibility, same for a sleepover situation (of course how often would one fifth grader join a bunch of kindergarteners for a sleepover?) The boundaries for realism are not black and white, so most of the time it's a judgement call more than anything else. Obviously a story that involves magic, mysticism, wizardry, etc. is not going to ever be accepted as as true account, but it would easily pass as a fictional (contributed) story. Good to know you're on board with me when it comes to stories that mention girls wearing a diaper (believe me, it isn't easy for me to write sentences like the last part of this one).

Question #1:  What do you do in your spare time?

I go bowling in my spare time (heh heh). Really, I do. I also like photography, old-school video gaming, and if I have the time and ambition, making music. I also enjoy watching movies and some TV shows on Discovery, Tru TV (formerly Court TV) and sometimes the Game Show Network. I watch "King of the Hill" and "Family Guy" on Adult Swim (Cartoon Network's late night programming). I also watch South Park and other programs on Comedy Central. A lot of my time, of course, goes into my web site and keeping up with emails. I also like to spend time with my family for various occasions.

Question #2:  What is your favorite movie(s) that you like?

Here is a rather eclectic sampling of some of my all-time favorite movies: Back to the Future (trilogy) The Breakfast Club The Cat from Outer Space Falling Down Felix the Cat- The Movie Forrest Gump Lethal Weapon (esp. 1 and 2) The Matrix (esp. first one) Napoleon Dynamite Office Space Plains, Trains and Automobiles Rain Man Saw (series to date)

Question #3:  I see on a prior question that you like Metallica; me too, but anyways, my question is, have you ever been to a Metallica or any other concerts before? (I'm basically asking who have you seen in concert? sorry to be so difficult in my questions.)

These are not difficult questions. You did just fine. I have not seen Metallica in concert. I wish I could have seen them in their heyday (they first came to Boise in 1991 during their Black Album tour). They're scheduled to appear at the  Idaho Center on December 7 of this year (2009), but with ticket prices being what they are (especially with the obscene markups and other miscellaneous fees imposed by Ticketbastard), and that the band is, in my opinion, past its prime, I probably won't go. I understand they still put on a hell of a show, though. As for other concerts, I saw my very first rock concert at the age of 14 when Van Halen was in town on May 4, 1984 (25 years ago as of this writing, wow!) while they were on their "1984" tour. They put on quite a show. A few nights later (May 15, to be exact) Rush was in town on their "Grace Under Pressure" tour. As far as I can remember, this is the only time Rush has ever performed in my area. Other concerts include Van Hagar (the show was good, but I vastly perfer the Roth-era Van Halen material), Poison, Ratt, Bon Jovi, Motley Crue and Whitesnake. The last concert I went to was the Poison show, which was in 1989.

Question #1:  You can't just post random stories on the site? (well involving diapers of course).

Whether or not you meant to post this as a question or as a statement (the absence of the question mark, which I added, changes the meaning of this sentence), I don't know what you mean by "random" stories, as if I post them without discretion. Clarification is needed.

Question #2:  Do you by chance get your diapers changed or change them yourself?

I change my own diapers.

Question #3:  whats a good, Thick, strong, long-lasting diaper that can hold your wet/messes for a while throughout the daytime while still being big and thick also wide crotched.

Molicare would probably be your best bet here.

Question #1:  Do you know of any other teens around the Rathdrum/Couer d'Alene area who are into diapers?

Sorry, but I currently know of none.

Question #2:  How do you feel about gay teen relations in stories?

It's not my thing, but I know a lot of readers here are into it, so I allow it to some degree.

Question #1:  How would you feel about asking some AB/nurturing questions (loving care, use of toys, baby clothes, bottles, etc.), in addition to those about diaper discipline and wearing diapers without pants (i..e., start with QOTW/Sister QOTW, depending on response, adding questions, or sections to surveys to draw this out)?

While I am not much into the infantilist side of diapers and prefer to focus on DL-based questions, I am willing to post some questions along these lines.

Question #1:  How did you decide to start your site?

I wanted to have a regular place where I could showcase my stories. At the time there were relatively few web sites for diaper lovers and the Usenet group alt.sex.fetish.diapers was the primary resource for stories and getting to know other people. My ISP at the time provided members five megabytes of space for hosting a web site. As I only had a few stories to my credit and had not been posting stories from others, this was easily enough space for everything I wanted to share with the AB/DL community. Most of the features you see on the site now, such as the surveys, Questions of the Week, sightings, etc. did not exist. These features came about over time. As I began accepting stories from other writers the alloted space quickly filled up, and since my ISP charged a lot of extra money for more space the only way to get around this limitation was to either eliminate some of the stories or post them as .zip files; I chose the latter option, which proved to be bothersome for many users. The time had come to move to a bigger site. My site was hosted on Geocities for about a year before it got shut down. I then moved the site to where it is currently hosted.

Question #1:  Are there some boys out there ages 6 years old and up, not potty trained? (not the ones with special needs)

Of course there are! A lot of boys simply don't want to give up their diapers, or their parents feel that since boys are so hard to toilet train, why bother trying to train them in the first place? Some parents also find their boys are easier to manage when they are kept in diapers.

Question #2:  Do you know if boys 6 years old and up been punished with diapers?

I don't personally know of any boys who are punished with diapers, but I have exchanged emails with lots of boys who are punished in this manner.

Question #1:  Greetings. Since you apparently "hold down the fort" on your own, is there anything we can do as visitors and observers that would help you in any way? Your site is definitely worth keeping in ship shape, and it does not seem fair to me that you should go it alone, unless this is your preference of course. If there's anything I can do, let me know.

I really do appreciate the offer to help. The best help, I think, would be if someone with more web design experience and knows his way around Perl, PHP, SQL, and other advanced web development environments could assist with automating the processes I currently have to handle manually. At a less technical level, anyone who could go through the stories and proofread them and correct errors would be a great help as well. Any other offers to help in other ways would also be appreciated.

Question #2:  If a QOTW does not apply to me, or only very little, should I still bother answering it? Should I fill it out completely to the best of my ability, or do a partial take where I only fill out the applicable info?

If you can at least answer part of a QOTW, by all means, go ahead and answer the parts that do apply to you and skip those that do not.

Question #3:  What is the ratio of positive to negative response and commentary that you receive regarding your website? I.E. for every three people who write to say what a great job you are doing, there is one who complains. (Not important, just being nosy.)

Fortunately, I can confidently say that less than 5% of the emails I receive are negative in tone. I recognize, of course, that this doesn't mean that there aren't more people than what such emails indicate who are opposed to my web site. Most of them, fortunately seem to be smart enough not to waste their time writing a complaint, knowing that I will either: (a) Only read the first few words of their email, just enough to make a sufficient assessment of the remaining content to judge it as caustic and abrasive, dismiss it with an uncaring "whatever, asshole" remark, ignore it and delete the offending message without reading the rest of their pathetic drivel; (b) Respond to it with a curt rejoinder, or; (c) Publically ridicule the person with an insult-laden diatribe on the web site if the complaint is so laughably asinine to deserve such conspicuous derision.

Question #4:  Have you ever considered adding a feature to your site that would randomly select any page from your specific site when the "Random" link is clicked? I like when sites do this, especially large ones with thousands of pages. You never know what you will come up with, and on a site as large and diverse as yours it's almost impossible to decide what to read or where to start. A random feature would encompass all areas of the site; stories, MOTW, sightings, surveys ETC.

I've never given this much thought, but it would make a good addition to the site. If I ever take the time to completely overhaul the site to include more advanced features this will be one worth considering.

Question #1:  How can I tell my friend that I wear diapers? (we are both about 20 years old.)

How long have you known this friend? Do you and him get along well or do you have your "moments"? If there are times when you and him don't always get along I'd keep the diapers out of it. If he's a true buddy who would never betray you, then you either have to take a subtle approach and let yourself get caught (either let your diapers show or let him see some evidence of your desires to wear diapers, including something as subtle as having a bookmark for this web site in your browser).

Question #1:  How could I convince my mom or dad to get me diapers?

As I expected to happen when I began soliciting questions, this particular question has already come up several times, and every time someone asks me about getting the parents' approval, there are no details at all. What are your parents like? How and when do you want to wear diapers? Do you want to wear diapers without pants? Do you have siblings and if so, how much of a factor are they in how easily you could get away with wearing diapers? Even if I did know these things, there is no "one size fits all" answer to this question. One of these days I am going to write an article that addresses the various issues that I know young boys face when wanting to wear diapers but fearing how their parents will react. For now, all I can say is assess your situation and then develop a plan of action.

Question #1:  Do you ever wear multiple underwear as your diapers, and if so, how many do you usually wear at a time?

Ever since I have lived on my own and gotten real diapers I have not worn multiple underpants. I've also put on some weight in that time, so when I have put on multiple briefs for old time's sake it just isn't the same.

Question #2:  Do you ever wear the multiple underwear overtop disposable diapers to create more bulk?

I never did this myself, but I have thought about other boys doing this. This might make a good Question of the Week topic; "How do you make your diapers thicker?"

Question #1:  How old are you?

39.

Question #1:  How do you know when the stories are posted on the website?

If I don't know when the stories are posted then something is seriously wrong. I presume you mean "you" in the generic sense. The new and updated stories are posted every Sunday night. I try to finish by 10:00 PM Mountain time, but if you don't see updates by then, don't despair. At the latest the stories may be posted the next day.

Question #2:  Can you you post a story about a boy whose brothers told homt he was gay?

I don't see that such a story like this would go very far. So the boy's brothers tell him he's gay, then what? He denies it or tells his brothers to go get bent. Would the brothers be able to present their case with evidence? And where would diapers come into this story?

Question #1:  Is it best to completely shave your pubes?

Shaving your pubic hairs will make it easier to clean yourself down there since urine and fecal matter will not get caught in the hairs, plus you don't have to worry about painfully tugging on your pubes when cleaning this area.

Question #2:  What's the best way to deal with erections during diaper changes?

Without knowing who your diaper changer is, and assuming that you accept having erections, my general advice would be to masturbate after you are diapered if you just have to relieve yourself of sexual tension and would not be content with . If you masturbate before the diaper change you are less likely to have an erection, but then your penis will be more sensitive to touch and this may make you even more uncomfortable. If you have a good relationship with your diaper changer she or he could masturbate you during the diaper change. If you would rather not have erections during a diaper change try to think of something unpleasant. I don't know how well this will work but it's worth a try.

Question #3:  If my friend, another TB/DL, has a mom who breasfeeds him, how should I ask her if I can do it, too, when I'm over?

Sorry, but I'm not touching this one.

Question #1:  How do you feel about stories containing hypnotism?

I've never really given much consideration to stories involving hypnotism. I think it would be an interesting theme to explore and I'd like to invite you and others to write.

Question #1:  Would you write a erotic story about a high school boy who has a real wetting accident in class because the teacher won't let him go? Then take it where you want?

My version of such a story would involve a junior-high age boy. Any eroticism would be limited to masturbation and sexual arousal from seeing other diapered boys. There would, of course be girls who diaper the boy in the story if I wrote it.

Question #1:  Although I do not wear diapers I have an interest in them and in going to the bathroom in my pants. But this has caused me to be very shy, especially around girls (Even though I have a lot of friends that are girls). How can I over

If you are shy anyway, you need to acclimate yourself to being comfortable when talking to people about mundane, everyday topics before going so far as to wet or mess yourself in their presence. Start with the people whom you trust the most. I'm sure you could do a Google search for advice on how to overcome shyness. Once you have attained a level of comfort that allows you to feel contented around your friends are you ready to advance to the next stage. If you reach this stage, start with wetting, and only do a small amount to guage their reactions. This is not something you want to attempt by diving in head first. You need to approach this situation in stages.

Question #1:  What's the better diaper, Depends or Tena or Lille?

I'd recommend reading other people's comments on the Diaper Ratings yet. page and make your decision from this. I've never heard of the Lille brand before and nobody has submitted any reviews on it

Question #1:  Where (or do you know where) the majority of DLs and ABs are located/live?

I would imagine that they are more abundant in more densely populated areas. I know that sounds obvious, but you're much more likely to run into an AB/DL in San Francisco than in, say, Pinedale, Wyoming. Various socioeconomic factors would play a role, and I would imagine areas where religion imposes a greater influence on people (e.g. Utah, where Mormonism is based, the Bible Belt in the South, etc.). Areas where blue-collar workers are or were once dominant, such as the "rust belt" of the Great Lakes region may very over areas where white-collar career holders dominate the workforce. Race may also play a part, though I don't want to get into a discussion/debate over whether or not white people are into diapers more than Hispanics, etc. Florida's disportionately high senior citizen population of retirees may influence the numbers there, but I am not a sociologist. Anyone out there who is a sociologist is welcome to take a stab at this one and email me with his or her findings or at least more professionally-based theories. And so far I have only considered the Unisted States. There may be a higher ratio in Europe where attitudes towards sexuality seem to be more relaxed.

Question #2:  If so, why do you believe that it is in these areas and how many do you believe are out there? (since most tend to be high go for a low estimate and a high estimate)?

I would hazard a guess that areas dominated by middle-class people would tend to be more likely candidates for being AB/DL. Poor people may not be able to afford diapers and rich people may be too involved in their professions or the other leisurely activities that their wealth affords them to engage in diaper play. I don't doubt that areas with more religious influence would have fewer AB/DLs (excluding the people whose sexual predilections aren't so highly repressed by their religions who would never admit to it) than in areas where religion is not as dominant. ut this is all sheer folk theory at best, so take this information with the proverbial grain of salt. A number of sources I have read over the years indicate that the ratio of AB/DLs to the population as a whole is about 3 in 1000. The ratio of males to females is 19 to 1, or 95% males to 5% females (source: Understanding Infantilism). Whether this emcompasses all the people worldwide (including third-world nations), all the people in developed nations only, or just within the U.S., I don't remember. If we assume that number only applies to the United States then we must therefore assume the following numbers are more or less correct; Area Population 0.3% ratio Male (95%) Female (5%) Community in which I live 667 2 2 Main city where I live (Boise) 200,000 600 480 120 Metro area 500,000 1,500 1,200 300 State (Idaho) 1,400,000 4,200 3,360 840 United States 300,000,000 900,000 720,000 180,000 Even at such a low ratio, if you live in a decent-sized town and we disregard all the other sociological factors and strictly look at simple straight numbers, there are bound to be a few others like you in the neighborhood. If you attend a school with a little over 660 students, then stastistically you are likely to have at least one classmates who is also into wearing diapers (you count as one, he counts as the other). While he may be in a different grade from you, there is a 95% chance that he is a boy. Also keep in mind that in-depth studies of AB/DL behaviors are quite scarce as you will see on the link above to the Understanding Infantlism web site, so there could be wider variances still. Whatever the actual numbers may be, I wouldn't recommend advertising this side of you to the general public since we are still in a vast minority and are often misunderstood by the population as a whole.

Question #3:  What can a person use to treat diaper rash? (I read about this in one of the articles but it was kinda dated).

There are a number of remedies for diaper rash available in just about any supermarket or drugstore such as Desitin. A Google search on the phrase "how to treat diaper rash" yields over 3,000 hits, and "treating diaper rash" returns over 7,500 hits.

Question #4:  This is just a suggestion (didn't know where else to put it); makeshift diapers can be made with t-shirts using the short arms as tabs and using STURDY safty pins secure them to the bottom of the shirt. I never did see this in the

Good suggestion! I will be sure to add this to the article. Please furnish me with any additional details that should be noted for using this method.

Question #1:  Where (or do you know where) the majority of DLs and ABs are located/live?

I would imagine that they are more abundant in more densely populated areas. I know that sounds obvious, but you're much more likely to run into an AB/DL in San Francisco than in, say, Pinedale, Wyoming. Various socioeconomic factors would play a role, and I would imagine areas where religion imposes a greater influence on people (e.g. Utah, where Mormonism is based, the Bible Belt in the South, etc.). Areas where blue-collar workers are or were once dominant, such as the "rust belt" of the Great Lakes region may very over areas where white-collar career holders dominate the workforce. Race may also play a part, though I don't want to get into a discussion/debate over whether or not white people are into diapers more than Hispanics, etc. Florida's disportionately high senior citizen population of retirees may influence the numbers there, but I am not a sociologist. Anyone out there who is a sociologist is welcome to take a stab at this one and email me with his or her findings or at least more professionally-based theories. And so far I have only considered the Unisted States. There may be a higher ratio in Europe where attitudes towards sexuality seem to be more relaxed.

Question #2:  If so, why do you believe that it is in these areas and how many do you believe are out there? (since most tend to be high go for a low estimate and a high estimate)?

Question #3:  What can a person use to treat diaper rash? (I read about this in one of the articles but it was kinda dated).

Question #4:  This is just a suggestion (didn't know where else to put it); makeshift diapers can be made with t-shirts using the short arms as tabs and using STURDY safty pins secure them to the bottom of the shirt. I never did see this in the

Question #1:  I really want to wear diapers but I don't have anything but toilet paper to make diapers; what should I do?

I'm going to need a lot more information before I can begin to make any suggestions. Obviously there are obstacles you face to getting diapers and you need to come up with ways to overcome these obstacles (and evaluating the risks of doing so), or settle for makeshift diapers. Wearing a lot of tighty whities at a time might be a suitable alternative.

Question #1:  Is there a school that is only for boys who wear diapers?

I don't know of any school that really exists for this purpose. Such schools are mostly the product of story writers' fantasies (including mine).

Question #1:  How do you come up with ideas for your stories?

I have an active imagination and many things will inspire me to come up with ideas. A touch of eccentricity helps, too.  . I'm also very dedicated to my feelings and beliefs about diapers and boys. Sometimes my inspiration for ideas will come from something as simple as a comment I might overhear at work or in a restaurant, or perhaps a scene from a movie or on TV, or from someone else's experiences with diapers as told to me in their emails.

Question #1:  Any chance of seeing updated Diaper Dicipline or Brother Surveys? (I know the latter in particular does not really fit in your interests, but it would be nice to see an update)

I plan to eventually get these surveys updated. My first project is getting everything in place for Part B of the Sister Survey.

Question #1:  I know this might sound kinda stupid, but, I would like to know what you consider to be both the bulkiest and most absorbent diaper currently on the market (they would be for use at home, not at school).

From what I have seen, Molicare diapers are the thickest disposable diapers, but they are not easy to get if you live in the U.S. or other parts of North America since they come from Europe. Maybe the readers can chime in on this one.

Question #1:  Have you ever seen a boy wearing diapers in grocery stores, malls or any other places?

The last time I remember seeing a conspicuously diapered boy was when I worked at Office Max. He looked to be about three years old. Unfortunately you don't see people taking their kids out in just diapers like you used to. It seems that this sort of thing is something only "rednecks" do.

Question #1:  Do you know if there is a place that sells adult baby bottles?

I haven't checked myself, but I imagine that a little bit of Googling would likely turn up something.

Question #1:  What do you like people to say, if anything during your diaper change?; i.e. the nature of their talk (baby talk, negative scolding.)

If I were into role-playing I would enjoy it if my "sister" teased me about how I looked in my diapers, how bad I smelled, how glad she is to be a girl

Question #1:  At what age did you start to want to wear diapers?

I remember having feelings of fondness towards my diapers as young as three years old. I liked how my thick white diapers looked and felt on me. I liked not wearing pants over my diapers and letting my sisters see my diapered butt and smelling their stinky little brother. It's probably the reason I was so stubborn with toilet training.

Question #2:  Did/Does any family members know & what was their reaction?

My mother knows about it. In the summer of 2005 I ended up confessing when a misunderstanding at work led to me being fired as a nosy co-worker found out about my diaper fetish and told the boss. Since my mother knows that I am a good worker and would not be fired for slacking off, how else was I to explain why I was fired after failing to convince her that I was merely "laid off"? My mother has known about it for some time, and she's probably had her suspicions all along but just hasn't said anything to me about it. She'd rather I quit wearing diapers, but she probably realizes that I never will. How I wish I could have an open and frank discussion with her. I'd really like to know more about my difficult toilet training, and why she resorted to putting all that underwear on me instead of getting some real diapers. I'd like to know what she has suspected of my diaper fetish and what evidence she has found of it over the years. It is unknown to me whether or not my father ever knew. He passed away in September of 2007. Perhaps my mother knows, but given her feelings towards me wearing diapers, it's a topic I dare not bring up. While my sisters no doubt have vivid memories of teasing me for my accidents and my multiple-underpants diapers, I am not sure if they are aware of these experiences feeding the diaper fetish that I have now or if I even have a diaper fetish. It is possible that one of my sisters may have seen evidence of it when she was visiting one day and may have seen a file icon on my desktop whose contents were clearly labeled as to indicate an extreme interest and involvement in diapers.

Question #1:  Does this mean I have to wear diapers?

Does WHAT mean you have to wear diapers?