Diaper User's FAQ

Getting diapers is probably the worst part of being an AB/TB/DL. Not only is it really embarrassing, but there is always the risk that you will be seen by someone you know. Of course, if you're a bedwetter, or a 24/7 user, this is not a problem :).

Options

The best way to go about things is to take your car to a town, far, far away. Lacking a car, there's the bus, lacking public transit, there's, a bike, lacking that, your feet. If you live in a rural area, mail order is sometimes your only option unless you can work up the guts to go to a local store.

Choices

When you actually go to the store, it's best to target a chain drugstore near closing, or late at night for a 24-hour drugstore. Now once you go in, work up your courage by wandering the aisles a bit. Finally, run over to the diaper aisle, and it's time to make a choice. Usually here are your choices:

• Attends
• Depend
• Store Brand/Generic

Okay, my personal favorite has to be Attends. Not only are they the closest to real baby diapers, but they have these pretty blue tapes, and a white outer shell. They hold a lot, but despite waist elastic, they tend to leak out the top when lying down. (Click Here for the solution to that.)

They usually average between $15 and $17 (US) depending on the chain per package (28 small, 22 medium, 18 large). I have found that large Attends are hard to come by in a lot of places. Thrift Drug seems to always stock them. Otherwise, you have to hit the supermarket

All right, let me get it off my chest right now, I don't like Depends. They are GREEN and have these weird ends of plastic around it. I guess this is to make them seem less like a diaper or something. They do have a lot more baby diaper features than Attends, such as leak guard canals and catch pockets at the top. Unfortunately, they don't hold a lot, and are prone to leaking. They do have the Velcro tabs like Huggies do now, which is good for those of us who can't seem to tape it right, or have tape pop problems because we're... big babies :)

Generic diapers are sometimes good, sometimes wretched. I personally have tried the CVS brand, and the brand they used to sell at Woolworths. The Woolworths were pretty good. They had 2 tapes, instead of 3, and they held quite a bit, as well as not having the high rise of the other diapers (I like my diapers at my waist). The CVS brand was pretty much the same, I think it was the same diaper repackaged. I hear the WalMart Assurance brand really sucks. If you're not sure, then skip generics. Now if you REALLY want the best diaper out there, it's Molicare. They may be purple, but they're thick, hold a lot, and have great tapes. Only bummer is lack of waist elastic. I HIGHLY recommend them. They are quite expensive though, averaging about $2/diaper.

Getting Out Of There Alive

Okay, now that you've chosen your diapers, you have to pay for them, and get out of there. The best thing to do is to watch until the line goes down to almost nothing, then run to the cashier. They are going to give you "the look", but stay cool. If they ask if they're for you (I've never had it happen) you can say "They're for my grandmother", or you can go on the offensive, and say "No, they're for my crippled brother, are you going to laugh at him now?" This from what I've been told by people who've used it, works every time. Remember, what you are buying is not illegal or wrong in any way. If you don't feel like lying, just don't respond. There's no law that says you have to.

Mail Ordering Diapers

The other way to get your diapers is to mail order them. You have to do this most of the time for good cloth diapers (if you REALLY want to wear them) plastic pants, baby clothes (if you like this sort of thing), and Molicares (the BEST disposable on the market, despite its being purple) This can be done from any of the places linked at the bottom. Typically you will need a credit card for fast service, but if you can wait that long, or don't have access to one, then you can send check/MO to the company. Typically they all ship in unmarked boxes, but then again, people might want to know what's in the box. :)

Getting Diapers Past Your Parents

• Stay home the day it's supposed to arrive, grab the box fast
• Say "none of your business" (may not work with parental units)
• Arrange for an alternative pickup point. Use "gift for person X" as an excuse
• Arrange so that you, and only you can sign for it, or to pick it up at area distribution warehouse.

Other than that, you're on your own.

Hiding Diapers and What If They're Found

Hiding Techniques

Okay, now you're home, and you gotta make sure that the parents don't find them, or your spouse or girlfriend, or nosy roommates or whatever. What I always do, is I take a trash bag, and put the bag of diapers in it, only opened enough to get them out (because that sweet new diaper perfume tends to linger) then I drawstring the first bag, and throw a second one over the top and close that one, too. Then I put the whole mess in the bottom of my file cabinet, in the drawer that only I know how to open :) Other people hide them in a drop ceiling, or in their closet, or even under their bed. Between mattress and boxspring is not suggested for those whose bed might be changed by parental units, and it's been a classic hiding place for other things for years;) This is all I can offer, other than you takes yer chances

What If They're Found?

Dealing With Parents

Your parents may, or may not understand. What happened with me, and a lot of people was that our parents passed off their discovery as an experiment in teenage sexuality. My mother also asked me if I were a pedophile, and of course I denied it, because it's not true! Infantilism and pedophilia are not associated, but I have met online several Abys that are pedophiles. I personally think that anyone that touches children for their own selfish pleasure, is a real scumbag. If a boy asked me to diaper him and treat him like a baby, I would still hesitate, because some children don't really mean what they say.

Let's say that your parents don't understand, and they treat it like you are gay or something. A lot of times this is because they think what you're doing is perverted, or that you will become a child molester. If they are dead-set on this, there's not much you can do, but I have provided two documents, located at the bottom of this section, that may help.

Dealing With Roomates

Your roommates may be easier or harder to deal with. You can say "Hey, it's my money, I'm paying for my space, I can do what I want." I keep my diaper wearing behind closed doors, because only about half the people living here know about my diapers. Other people have the entire house being OK with it (I know at least one person here would freak) and can go about freely. So basically, tellthem to @#$ off if they have a problem with it, and great if they're OK. Don't alienate them, but try to sit down and let them see where you're coming from.

Wearing Diapers

Disposable Diapers

All right, you're ready now to wear your first diaper in a long time. The best method was taught to me by a 24/7 wearer. Hold the diaper over your butt, like you were wearing it, and back into a wall. Now the wall will hold it in place while you undo the tapes, and pull the front up, and tape it closed. This method ensures a nice tight leak-free fit. Make sure to make adjustments as needed so that the diaper is snug in the legs and waist, but not TIGHT so that the tapes may pop. Attends' tapes are kind of strange in that they need to "set", so hold them down a couple seconds, and don't do anything that would strain them for at least 5-10 minutes. Also, Attends tend to have waist leakage problems. This can be helped by the following:

• When diapering, hold your penis down, and then use the diaper to keep it that way by taping tightly
• Fold the top of the diaper over about one inch, and then tape. This forms a "catch pocket" that will act as a barrier
• Wear plastic pants. This combined with the other 2, will definitely stop leaking

Cloth diapers should come with velcro instead of pins. If you got pin-on ones for some reason, sorry, can't help you too much there. Use the same process with what is usually called "fitted diapers" to put them on, but use velcro instead of tapes :). Remember, you must wear plastic pants with cloth diapers, and it is suggested that you get stuffers or wear more than one at the same time, as a single diaper won't last too long :)

Protecting Your Skin

Remember, your skin is fragile, and you can get diaper rash, just like little babies do. Here's how to protect yourself, but sometimes it will just happen :(

• Desitin-recommended #1 by parents, also try Diaper Goop, which is less available, but supposedly better. This stuff seals the skin against rash, and it may stink, but it does the job
• Powder-While debateable whether it does anything to help, it sure smells good :)
• Baby Oil-Used by some in place of Desitin. Use what you prefer
• Shaving-Real babies don't have hair down there, and any doctor will tell you that the hair traps bacteria and ammonia which leads to diaper rash. So, if you are going to be wearing them a lot, I suggest shaving your diaper area (in back, too). If you are scared of blades in that area, try a product called NAIR. Just rub it on, and watch the hair fall off! You may feel strange breezes down below however, because it's usually covered, and it will itch like a (&(@#$#@$ coming back in, so only shave if you intend to stay that way for awhile.

Using Diapers

Increasing Your Output

Of Course, now that you're happily diapered, you want something, A LOT of something to put in it. Some babies like peeing and pooping, some just peeing, some only pooping. Well, we'll make sure you can do what you prefer :)

• Peeing
  Drugs and substances that make you pee are called diuretics. They stimulate your body into producing more urine. You can get drugs that do this, but you might not want to explain why you want it to the doctor :) Foods you can buy at the store include:
  • Dr. Pepper. Dr. P is named by a lot of Abys Dr. Peer, and I know one 24/7 that had to give it up, because his didees leaked to much :)
  • 4C Iced Tea Mix (any tea mix might work
  • Coke, Pepsi, any "black" soda
• Pooping
  Laxatives cause a lot of pooping and you can buy them at any drug store. Metamucil is also a good drink for this. If you want to go farther, there are suppositories and enemas. Personally, I'm not going to tell you how to do those, because suppositories have instructions, and enemas can be dangerous if done incorrectly. Foods that will make you poop:
  • Bran Muffins-This is RAW fiber, lots of "bulk material"
  • High Fiber Cereal-Shredded Wheat, All Bran

  I'm sorry I don't have more information, but pooping isn't my thing :)
  Cleaning Up
  
          OK, now you have a wet/messy diaper, and you need to clean up. If you have a messy diaper ask yourself the question: "How messy is it?" If it is REALLY messy, then I suggest you get into the bathtub before releasing those tapes. At the very least, stand on some easily cleaned surface, just in case. Undo the tapes, and let the diaper drop(not advised for very messy diapers)or lower it to the ground. Now you have t o clean your butt up :). If you bought some baby wipes with your diapers, you can use these(they're gonna be cold, they do sell wipe warmers, but I don't know where to get them) I use paper towels when I don't have them. So anyway, get as much off with dry paper towels as possible. Then, take a wet one, and start scrubbing. As a test to see if you're clean, take a clean paper towel(dry) and run it all over/inside your butt. If it comes out clean, so are you.
          Next you want to get your crotch. Take a wet towel, and run it all over, concentrating especially on the penis and areas of alot of hair. Make sure you get it well, because this is the #1 area for rash.
          If you have a REALLY messsy diaper, than I suggest just spraying off in the shower, it's fast, and takes alot less time than it would take to wipe it off. Make sure to soap off well, and then dry off well afterwards.
  
  Hiding the Evidence
  
          O k, so now you have this stinky diaper, and you need to hide it. Here are the methods I have used:

  • Double bag it in plastic grocery bags, and throw it out late a night on trash day
  • Do the above, and throw it down the storm drain
  • The above, and throw it into a public trash can
  
          These methods are what I do, you can do whatever you want. Just remember not to wait too long, as dirty diapers(especially messy) tend to stink after a couple days. You can buy a diaper genie(but do you really want to explain why you have this?) to help make them "keep" longer. But I suggest if you're gonna buy a container, than buy one of those deodorized portable diaper pails, and hide it deep in the closet. Can't help you much more in this area, sorry.
  
  Fun With Diapers
  
  How to make your diapers less detectable
  
          OK, so you want to wear diapers outside the safety of your room, so yo u need to hide the noise, and some of the bulk. The first think you can do, is wear bicycle shorts(the tight ones) over your diaper, this will hide alot of the crackle. Plastic pants(tight ones) will do this also, as well as protect you from the occasional leak. Remember to "fold down" your diapers, or to wear plastic pants to help keep them down. If you have problems with shirts riding up, wear a trenchcoat(works GREAT) or if it's too hot, then make a onesie(see below) or buy one. Also, long shirts, and loose fitting pants will help alot to hide them.
  
  How to make your diapers more detectable
  
          For those of us who are "exibitionists", then you want to make them more detectable. OK, you want to wear THICK diapers(triple attends, or molicares) and keep the high waist rise. Wear too large plastic pants(that still seal correctly) that high rise on you. Wear your pants at your waist, and there will be alot of diaper sticking up for the short shirt you wear :). This is only a guess, as I prefer to hide them.
  
  How to make a onesie, with common household items
  
          Alright, you want a onesie, for that extra baby feel, or diaper hiding properties. Onesies are designed not to ride up on you, so it hides your diapers well. On real babies, thats why they wear them(bad thing, keeps you from seeing their diaper :( ) Take a long shirt, and pin it between your legs. Easy huh? On a shorter shirt, you can buy some stretchy fabric at the fabric store, and install snaps or velcro to it(use hot glue for the velcro). If you use snaps, then measure it out, so that it's nice and tight over your diaper ;). Sew this to the shirt, and there you go!.
  
  How to turn baby diapers into stuffers
  
          Buy a package of Pampers, size 5 for medium attends, and size 6 for large(you can do whatever you want tho). Cut off the tapes on the sides, and make sure no scratchy s urfaces are left. Then, slice several small holes into the front of the diaper(5-6) Put the diaper into the front of your full size diaper. Make sure you pull the diaper up with the baby diaper in place. You can put either one or two diapers in there, as many as you have room for. If you are wearing Molicare diapers, then you will be limited in how many stuffers you can put in(Darrnnnnnnnnnn). This process will increase your diaper's capacity by at least 1-2 peeings, as well as make it thicker! All around goodness :)
  
  How to make a THICK diaper out of Attends
  
          This is kind of a variation of the stuffer theory. If you are at the high end of a size, then you may want to mix and match sizes. Assume that you wear medium diapers, and you are at the high end of the size scale. Poke holes into the diaper all the way down to the middle of your butt. Don't poke too big holes, or the filling will run out. Put on your diaper, and then put the next diaper o n BACKWARDS. This will give you mucho padding where you need it most, as well as give more surface area to be wet. Poke holes in it like you did the last one. Then take the large size diaper, and DON'T poke holes. Put it on and enjoy! Wear plastic pants to increase the capacity even MORE!
  
  Diaper Resources
  
  Disposable Diapers
  
          Of course you can find them at any supermarket or drugstore, but if you want to buy them by the case, or discreetly you have to go mail order. Here are the links:
  • Molicares-The best diapers ever!
  • HDIS
  • DPF
  
  
  Cloth DIapers
  
          You almost have to buy cloth mail order, or you can go to a medical supply store, some of them carry them, and some don't. Here's a list of places to call.
  • Babykins
  • Angel Fluff Diapers
  • DPF
  
  
  Baby clothes
  
          For those of you who like to take your diaper wearing to the next level, here's a list of places to get them. However, most baby clothes are at least $40, sometimes more, so watch out on those prices. However most are custom made, so you get a great fit :)
  • Babykins
  • Fashions By Tim
  • DPF
  
  
  I hope you have found this document useful.
  If you have any questions, additions, please feel free to mail them into [email protected]

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