Response Number: | 0026 |
Date: | 08/06/2009 |
| Name: | Mark |
| Location: | New Zealand |
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| Are you a girl or a boy? | ||||
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| What is your relationship to the boy who was found in violation of proper use of the toilet? | ||||||||||||||||||||||||
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| Name of the boy who was found to be in violation of proper toilet usage: | Chris |
| Age of the boy who was found to be in violation of proper toilet usage: | ||||||||||||||||||||||
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| What was the date and time of the incident? | 4th August, 2009, about 2 |
| Has this boy been reported here before and is therefore a repeat offender? | ||||||||||||
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| Indicate the violations found for this particular incident: | ||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||
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| Provide a detailed description of this incident. |
| I was babysitting him as our mother and father were at work until 4pm. He had a friend over, and they were playing outside, until Chris's friend came inside and told me that Chris had just both wet and soiled himself. Apparently he didn't want to go to the toilet because it was too "lame" for h im. The front of his pants looked as though he had peed himself, I told him to take off his pants, and, sure enough, his SpongeBob underwear was stained bright yellow and dripping at the front, and brown and stinking at the back. |
| Who else witnessed this incident (excluding yourself, obviously)? | ||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||
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| Include any available statements or accounts from the witnesses noted above: |
| His friend called him a "retard" and a "baby". |
| How was the evidence of these violations documented/retained from this incident? | ||||
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| Provide details on how this evidence was documented. |
| I told him to take off his pants and underwear |
| Which violations has this boy been shown to commit in the past? | ||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||
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| Provide details on this boy's past violations as noted above. |
| He once peed himself at school during lunch, but apparently said that he spilled a drink on himself. Also there have been lots of phone calls from school about him peeing and/or soiling himself during class, and being made to wear nappies during class. Also has peed and soiled himself seemingly every time he visits a friend's house. |
| Provide statements and accounts from others who have also noted the violations as indicated above. |
| How did the boy respond to being confronted with his violations? Who confronted the boy? |
| Our mother has constantly threatened to put him in diapers (or nappies, as they're known here), but has never followed through until now. |
| What courses of action would you recommend be taken to punish the boy for his violations? | ||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||
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| Provide details on your recommended methods of punishment. |
| What was the actual punishment given? | ||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||
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| Who meted out or administered the boy's punishment? | ||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||
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| Provide details on how he was punished and by whom. Include those who had a role of some sort in the punishment and what their roles were. |
| When our parents returned home from work, they were furious. Mum went out for about half an hour, while Dad gave him a spanking, and when Mum came back, she had bought a few packages of disposable diapers, some baby powder and baby wipes, and other stuff like baby milk powder and baby food. She then went into the basement and got out boxes of our old baby stuff, like dummies, bibs and bottles. She then got a towel, put him on the living room floor, cleaned up his accident, and put a nappy on him. Then she made him a drink in his bottle, and fed him on the couch while watching TV. After his dinner (I think it was mashed apples and sauce), Mum and Dad went into the basement again, and didn't come out again until about half an hour later, because they were carrying up my old cot for him to sleep in, which was made by our uncle. He had to go to bed at 7pm, after Mum had changed his nappy (he had already soiled it), and he was given his dummy, which he slowly sucked on. This was also how it was the next two days. The bathroom was locked, and only Mum had the key. |
| How has this boy been punished for past violations of using the toilet/bathroom? Who was involved and what did these people do? |
| He wasn't punished for his accidents until now. |
| How fitting did you feel the punishment was for what the boy did? | ||||||
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| Why do you feel that the punishment the boy received was fitting and appropriate, too lenient or too harsh? |
| How did you feel about the way this incident was handled? What do you think could have been done differently? How have you felt about the handling of past incidents? What do you think could have been done differently? |
| How did this boy react to his punishment? |
| He was bawling for the first two days, but stopped by the third. He now appears to at least be accepting the fact that this is his punishment, however I doubt that he will learn anytime soon. |
| Describe yourself and your relationship to the boy. What do you and him look like? What are you and him each wearing? |
| He has never been smart at school, he was always in the remedial classes, and has a very small group of friends about 3 at the most, he's constantly called a retard. It's his first year at high school and he has been put in the foundation class (i.e. the retard class). He is kind of short and thin with medium length straight brown hair, and at the time of the accident he was wearing a bright red t-shirt and light green "army" pants, and I'm medium height with long straight 3brown hair, and I was wearing a white t-shirt with black jeans. |
