How Not to Get Caught


By Jenny

Advice from a parent on how not to get caught wearing diapers


Several people saw my previous posting (“A Mother’s Opinion”) and have asked me to write more. What follows was written with the help of my son Josh (who’s now 14 by the way.) Over the past couple of years he’s become quite the expert -with my help- at wearing diapers without being noticed. I’m sure many boys who visit this site are also quite good at hiding their diapers, but I thought I’d pass on our “top 10 tips” anyway.


  1. Choice of diaper. This is very important and takes some practice. Cloth diapers and plastic pants work well, but are bulky and difficult to hide. “Goodnites” are more discreet but tend to leak, especially if they get used more than once. Small adult diapers work well, but Josh now uses some all-in-one cloth diapers and plastic pants (a bit like training pants) called Gabby’s. They are available on line and are both discrete and very absorbent. They also don’t tend to leak, especially if worn with an extra pair of plastic pants.
  2. Choice of pants. It’s important to hide or disguise “bulges” but also to blend in. Jeans don’t work all that well, and tend to show up any leaks. Josh has several pairs of black nylon track pants. These are ideal for several reasons – they fit loosely so don’t tend to bulge, they make a slight rustling noise which hides any sounds from the diaper, and they don’t show any slight leaks. They are also easy to put on and take off for changing. The “pants on the ground” look is probably out, unless you really like showing off.
  3. Choice of other clothes. Long shirts or sweaters are a good idea to cover any “diaper line” or bulges, especially when you bend over.
  4. Needing to pee. Try to avoid any outward signs of needing to pee before you wet. Kids who need the washroom are quite obvious to parents, who are used to noticing the signs. Needless to say if you appear to need the bathroom, then you don’t, someone might figure out why.
  5. Doing it. Sometimes it’s hard to be subtle. For a long time Josh actually “grabbed” himself when he started wetting his diaper. He also tended to stand with his legs slightly apart and a “dreamy” look on his face, none of which he knew he was doing until I pointed it out. The best advice is to “practice” by watching yourself in the mirror as you wet a few times. Are you standing normally? What is the expression on your face? Are you breathing normally? Does your expression or “body language” change while you’re wetting or when you finish? All these things can be noticeable to someone who knows what to look for.
  6. Letting go. Generally it’s more subtle to pee a little at a time. This also gives the diaper more time to absorb each time you wet. But if you’ve left it too long and have to let go all at once, the best advice is to do it standing up. Diapers will generally absorb a lot quicker and are much less likely to leak if they are not being “squeezed” – for example by sitting – as you wet.
  7. Telling someone. If you regularly need to tell someone if you’re wet (for example a parent or sibling) invent a “code”. For example, Josh and my code for being wet is being “happy”. So if I ask him if he’s happy, he might say “I’m Okay” (meaning he’s dry), or “I’m really happy” (meaning he needs a diaper change) or something in between. It’s the kind of question a mom might ask, so nobody suspects anything.
  8. Number 2. Okay, so there’s probably no subtle way to poop your diaper. The best advice here is to do it when you know you can get somewhere to change fairly quickly, before people start to notice.
  9. Staying wet. The longer you stay wet, the more likely someone is to notice. If you enjoy staying wet, one trick is to use some odorless talc to powder when you change – it will help remove any odor, without giving the unmistakable whiff of baby powder.
  10. Changing. Finding the right place to change when you’re out can also be problematic. One tip is to head for the “disabled” washroom – they are usually self-contained and therefore a lot more private.


Well, there it is. Maybe someone will find this helpful. If you have any genuine questions or observations you can e-mail me: [email protected]




Posted 01/31/10