At what age did having a girl see you in your diapers first really bother you?

Number of responses received: 17

Response	Count	Percent	Graph
Under 3	0	0.0%
3	1	5.9%
4	0	0.0%
5	0	0.0%
6	0	0.0%
7	0	0.0%
8	2	11.8%
9	1	5.9%
10	6	35.3%
11	1	5.9%
12	1	5.9%
13	1	5.9%
14	1	5.9%
Over 14	0	0.0%
Total:	17

What bothered you so much about having a girl see you in your diapers?

Response	Count	Percent	Graph
It was like her seeing me in my underwear	3	17.6%
It was like being almost naked	4	23.5%
Because I knew she didn't have a penis or testicles	3	17.6%
Girls teased me about my diapers in ways that boys did not	8	47.1%
Because she would also see me naked	4	23.5%
Because she would also smell my diapers	6	35.3%
My diapers were so unlike the underwear she wore	4	23.5%
I never saw her in her panties but she saw me in my diapers	5	29.4%
She thought I looked cute in my diapers	8	47.1%
She thought I looked funny in my diapers	10	58.8%
She was fully dressed and I was not	7	41.2%
She felt that only boys wore diapers	4	23.5%

If modesty was a concern, why did having a girl see you in diapers bother you unlike having her see you in shorts?

Response	Count	Percent	Graph
Shorts are considered decent attire	4	23.5%
My diapers exposed more of my legs than shorts did	6	35.3%
Shape of my diapers drew her attention to my butt/genitals	5	29.4%
My diapers were thicker than my shorts	8	47.1%
I wore several diapers together but only one pair of shorts	3	17.6%
My diapers stood out so much more for being plain white	5	29.4%
She associated my diapers with peeing and pooping	11	64.7%

Why was it okay for other boys to see you in your diapers but not girls?

Response	Count	Percent	Graph
Because they also had a penis and testicles	3	17.6%
I was already used to being naked in their presence	3	17.6%
I was already used to being in underwear/diapers around them	5	29.4%
They also wore diapers	4	23.5%
Boys did not tease me about my diapers at all	2	11.8%
Boys did not tease me in the same ways as girls did	5	29.4%
I was used to peeing and pooping around other boys	3	17.6%
Boys didn't think I looked cute in diapers like girls did	7	41.2%
Boys didn't think I looked funny in diapers like girls did	3	17.6%

At what age did you understand that girls did not have a penis or testicles?

Response	Count	Percent	Graph
Under 2	1	5.9%
2	0	0.0%
3	1	5.9%
4	3	17.6%
5	5	29.4%
6	0	0.0%
7	2	11.8%
8	1	5.9%
9	1	5.9%
10	0	0.0%
11	0	0.0%
12	0	0.0%
Over 12	0	0.0%
Total:	17

At what age did you first see it for yourself that girls (or women) did not have a penis or testicles (including seeing it in pictures)?

Response	Count	Percent	Graph
Under 2	1	5.9%
2	0	0.0%
3	2	11.8%
4	3	17.6%
5	2	11.8%
6	2	11.8%
7	0	0.0%
8	2	11.8%
9	0	0.0%
10	1	5.9%
11	0	0.0%
12	1	5.9%
13	1	5.9%
14	1	5.9%
15	0	0.0%
Over 15	0	0.0%
Total:	17

How did the anatomical differences between boys and girls make you feel uncomfortable about having a girl see you in your diapers?

Response	Count	Percent	Graph
She thought my penis and testicles looked funny	4	23.5%
She thought my erections looked funny	4	23.5%
She wanted to touch these areas	7	41.2%
She asked me questions I could not answer	6	35.3%
She asked me questions I was too embarrassed to answer	7	41.2%
She asked my parents questions about my penis and testicles	5	29.4%
Because boys pee differently than girls	7	41.2%
I didn't think she'd understand what having a penis is like	5	29.4%

Which girls who regularly saw you in your diapers made you uncomfortable?

Response	Count	Percent	Graph
Older sisters	8	47.1%
Younger sisters	6	35.3%
Older girl cousins	4	23.5%
Younger girl cousins	5	29.4%
Sisters of friends	5	29.4%
Friends of sisters	6	35.3%
Sisters of sisters' friends	3	17.6%
Preteen babysitters (ages 12 and under)	5	29.4%
Teen babysitters (ages 13 tio 17)	8	47.1%
Neighborhood girls	8	47.1%
Other girls	9	52.9%

At which stages did a girl's presence or involvement make you feel uncomfortable about you wearing diapers?

Response	Count	Percent	Graph
Just knowing I wore diapers	9	52.9%
Seeing me in diapers	12	70.6%
Smiling at me because she saw me in diapers	8	47.1%
Laughing at me because she saw me in diapers	9	52.9%
Teasing me because she saw me in diapers	10	58.8%
Touching my diapers	9	52.9%
Changing my diapers	7	41.2%
Touching me in ways not within context of diaper change	9	52.9%

At what age did you feel more at ease about girls seeing you in your diapers and no longer bothered by it?

Response	Count	Percent	Graph
Under 2	1	5.9%
2	0	0.0%
3	0	0.0%
4	1	5.9%
5	0	0.0%
6	0	0.0%
7	0	0.0%
8	1	5.9%
9	0	0.0%
10	1	5.9%
11	2	11.8%
12	0	0.0%
13	1	5.9%
14	0	0.0%
15 and over	3	17.6%
Never	7	41.2%
Total:	17

What helped you to feel more at ease about girls seeing you in your diapers?

Response	Count	Percent	Graph
I had gotten used to girls seeing me in my diapers	11	64.7%
I learned to ignore the teasing	6	35.3%
I learned to deflect the teasing	2	11.8%
The girls became less amused by seeing me in my diapers	2	11.8%
The girls matured	5	29.4%
I used my diapers to get back at the girls (gross them out)	2	11.8%

Describe your self appearance:

Name	Age	Answer
Brendon	14	i am 14 5'6" tall and weigh 106 pounds. I'm wearing single disposible diaper and a T shirt. I just wet 10 minutes ago.
Jon	16	current - diaper and tshirt
wetste	29	around the house plain white vest, doubled white nappy and baby print plastic pants
Marc-Antoine	16	5'8'', wear music t-shirt, plain white diaper (sometime pantless), jeans, i have long blond hair, brown eyes.
[not given]	29	DIAPER,PLASTIC PANTS,TEE
Greg	33	I have brown hair and blue eyes and right now I'm wearing a t-shirt and shorts with a wet diaper underneath.
JasonT	80	as a kid, thin, medium height, and always in a diaper at night, always!
soaker	64	tee shirt and shorts worn over 6 six white cloth diapers and yellow, light blue, light green or pink plastic pants
nick	10	past 5pm diapers undershirt dry bedwetter
Tom	23	diaper & plastic pants
Charlie	11	11, can pass for an 8 year old wearing shirt and a diaper

Describe your brother's appearance:

Name	Age	Answer
Marc-Antoine	16	5'10'' music tshirt jeans
JasonT	80	twin brother, and he too wore a diaper every night.
nick	10	no brothers just sisters
Tom	23	same
Charlie	11	10, same as me only he looks a little older than me

Describe your sister's appearance:

Name	Age	Answer
Brendon	14	she usually wears pants or shorts in summer with T shirt on top. Some times she goes around just wearing panties and a T shirt.
Jon	16	current - tshirt and shorts
Marc-Antoine	16	like all other girls
soaker	64	blouse and shorts
Charlie	11	jeans and a tank top

What do you first remember about having a girl seeing you in diapers bother you so much? How old were you at the time? Why did this bother you? What did the girl(s) do to make you feel even more uncomfortable?

Name	Age	Answer
Andrew	16	When I turned 10 I realized that it was not normal for boys my age to be in diapers. I thought all ten year olds were in diapers, were changed by their mothers, and bathed by their mothers. I asked my mother one day when she was changing in a public restroom why the little boy who entered with his mom (age 6 about) went into his own stall and used the toilet. She told me that he was potty trained and didnt need diapers like I do. I thought she was lying to me. When we got home questions had flooded my head. So i asked her them. I was so interested in why not all boys needed diapers. When my mom changed me that night she noticed I was growing hair in my pubic areas a little. She told me I was growing up and my body would be changing in good ways! I got really self conscious. My sister came in after my diaper had been sealed and I suddenly felt awkward around her just laying there in my diaper. My mom turned to her with a smile and said "my boys growing up!" Then she asked my sister to help me into my pjs. My sister had helped me before but now... it just seemed so wrong. When she came over I tried to hide my diaper from her. She lifted me up and set me on the floor. I hated how she smiled at me with that "oh isnt he cute" look on her face. She held my pants open for me to stick my legs in. As I did I realized her eyes were in level with my penis. I turned bright red. Then as she pulled my pants up her hands slid across my diaper and made a crinkle sound. She giggled and said "goodness your diapers are noisy tonight" I felt humiliated. Then she put my shirt on, and patted my butt and told me to go get my bottle from mom in the kitchen. I ran so fast away from her.
Brendon	14	Mom would let my older sister (she's 2 years older) watch her change me and sometimes mom would let her change me too. I was like 6 years old and my sister would laugh at me when I was getting changed. That would make me mad at her and mom too. Mom would give her a lessons about my privates and mom let her touch them too. When I would complain mom would tell me that nothing was wrong with her changing me and seeing my balls and penis.
jon	16	I remember being emberessed for the first time when i was babysat for the first time. Before then my mother always watched me. I dont remember why but I had to have a babysitter. My whole family left and it was just me and this girl. She was pretty. Blonde hair green eyes, white smile whith jeans on and a white tee shirt. I was ten years old. I remember when she first arrived i was sitting in the living room watching tv. I could hear my mom explaining how Jana (babysitter) was to bathe and then diaper me. I began to get nervous. Jana would be the first girl other than my mom and the doctor to actually touch me naked. When my mom came in to say goodbye i started to cry in fear. "Please dont leave me. Please Please" She asked me why. I grabbed my gentials and whispered to her that i didnt want the babysitter to hurt or see me naked. My mom smiled. She then took my pants off and my shirt and told Jana that i dont need to wear any clothesfor the rest of the night. Janna looked at my diapers and smiled. It bothered me because I knew that she didnt have a penis. She didnt wear diapers. And here i was with a diaper and a penis! Then she came over and sat next to me. When my mom left she looked at me and said "Dont be embereessed. I have a little brother- not as old as you- but he wears diapers too. I know how to take care of a boys privates." I looked at her. Then she said it. The one thing that made it awlward the whole night "i will make you and your little diaper body happy!" she said it like i was a baby.
Jon	16	It has never bothered me.
Marc-Antoine	16	i was 12 and my friend saw me in diaper and she start to laught at me and told me that i was a baby and only baby wear daiper and that i probably have a baby penis.
Greg	33	Girls were always grossed out by the idea of diapers. They thought of me peeing and pooping in my pants as soon as they knew I wore diapers.
soaker	64	I was 13 years old and was in a t-shirt and shorts over cloth diapers and plastic pants due to incontinence. My mother took me to a tupperware party because see could not get a sitter. During the party she ask me to come by her to "check your diapers" I was very embaressed because there were mothers and there daughters my age there. One of the mothers saw my reaction and said "don't worry your mother had told us about wetting problems" As my shorts were pulled down in front of everyone I started to, once again, wet myself with all watching the pee collect in the bottom of the plastic pants. One of the young girls ask my mother if she could do my diaper change.My mother gave her my diaper bag and told me to let little Nancy change you and dont give her any problems. I followed Nancy with my shorts in my hand and my wetness in full view, back to her bedroom were the girls watched the 12 year old girl change a very wet 13 year old teenager. My mother came in at the end of the change and told Nancy to leave my shorts off so that she could check me easyer.
Tom	23	my cousin came over and I was wearing only my diaper and she made a remark about it

How did having boys see you in your diapers differ from having girls see you in your diapers? Why did it not bother you, or bother you as much or in the same ways, for boys to see you in your diapers as for girls?

Name	Age	Answer
Andrew	16	I still feel uncomfortable around boys. Ever since I found out that not all boys are in diapers I feel like awkward. Its just the same as girls.
Brendon	14	Boys seeing me in my diaper never really bothered me unless they started making fun of me or calling me names. I have 2 cousins who also wear diapers too. One is older and other is 2 years younger than me. We always play in our diapers when they come over or I go over their houses. Also 1 of my friends wets his bed and he wears diapers. When he comes over mom or my sister change him into a diaper too.
jon	16	Heres the list-- boys have a penis- and they have genitals- they pee the same way unlike girls- they dont think i look cute in diapers- not all of them wonder what my privates look like- when they change my diaper they do it fast and simple unlike girls who take there time and fondal everything and wipe everything and PLAY with everything and comment on everything- boys breast are smaller and dont give me errections- i am not sexually turned on by a boy (sometimes)- its still awkward for me to be naked with anyone but my mommy
Marc-Antoine	16	it bother me too.
Greg	33	Boys don't get grossed out as much as girls and don't think of pee and poop. They just think of things like you're like a baby or "aren't you poddy trained yet?"
Tom	23	no problem, my brothers were always in just their diaper or underpants

What early impressions did you get about girls where you recognized that girls were different from boys? In addition to understanding anatomical differences, what other differences in appearance, clothing (including underwear) and behavior did you notice?

Name	Age	Answer
Andrew	16	I noticed that a girls breast were of course different sizes. That was about the only thing I noticed to be different about there body. I did notice my sister not using diapers and how she would go to the toilet to go to the bathroom. I would see her underwear with curisosty- even when it wasnt on her and just folded in the laundry. I noticed she had to wear two swim suit peices and I just needed my swim diaper and shorts.
Brendon	14	The first girl I ever saw naked was my sister. Some times we took out baths together. I first remember that when I was like 3 or 4. I noticed that she didn't have a penis sticking out from between her legs. Mom explained that God made girls and boys different. She didn't give us the reason though. I found that out later. I never remember seeing my sister wearing diapers. She was potty trained by 4 years old. I do remember seeing her wearing just her undies around me all the time. I had to wear just diapers and use them while she could use the bathroom.
jon	16	I was terrified. My mom took a bath with my for the first time that i could actually comprehend her body when I was eight. She got me naked. and then got naked her self. I just stared at her crotch. She noticed and knelt down so i can see her face. She smiled and explained to me a girls vagina. She let me touch it and she explained where the pee comes out and stuff. She also took the time to explain breast to me and let me feel hers even though i have done that before.
Tom	23	no bugle in front

How, when and where did you begin to understand the anatomical differences between girls and boys? At what age did you see proof of this for yourself, and if so, how was this proof presented? How did you approach your parents (or vice versa) with such matters?

Name	Age	Answer
Andrew	16	Until I was ten I thought that all MOTHERS didnt have a penis and testicals. I thought it was something to do with old age. Since I didnt have a father to confirm that not all adults lose there "pieces" I beilived it to be true until one day we went to the pool. Just my mom and I. She took me into the bathroom and changed me in to a swim diaper and put my swim suit on. We went to the pool wear a girl was having a bloody nose. She was about 5 i would say. Blood was all over her swimsuit- so her mom started to take it off. I watched cause I was worried about her blood nose. I noticed that as her swim suit began to come off the top half of her body was the same and me. We both had two nipples and our breast were the same size. But then the swim suit came all the way off and I was shocked to see this girl didnt have a penis like me. I yanked on my moms hand and asked "why doesnt she have a wee wee and balls?" My mom looked at me like I was an idiot. I had a feeling she thought I already understood why this GIRL didnt have the same private parts I did. She told me it was because boys and girls bodies were different. I looked at her wide eyed. "What do you mean?" She then told me she would explain when we got home. So we went swimming but the whole time all I could think about was that girls naked body and why it looked the way it did. The girls mother had quickly covered her up in a towel so I didnt get a chance to look again. I wanted to so badly though. When we got home my mother had forgotton all about my new discovery. I decided to ask again right before bath time. As she undressed me I asked her the infamous question "Why are girls and boys bodies different?" She smiled and finnished getting me undressed. "Andrew- its the way god made us. When god made little boys like you he gave them wee wees (penis) and balls. (as she said this she touched mine) And then when god made little girls he gave them jayjays. (i just stared at her)" Then I did it. I asked the question of all questions for a boy to ask. What is a jay jay? (vagina) My mother looked a little worried on how she would explain this to me. Then she told me "A jayjay is where a girls pee comes out of. Your tinkle comes out of your wee wee right here (she touched the tip on my penis) but in girls it comes out the jayjay." I had to do it. I had to ask the next question "What does a jay jay look like?" My mom knew what she had to do. She pulled off her pants and underwear and showed me her vagina "This is my jay jay. My private parts. This is where my tinkle comes out of (she pulled apart the two flabs of skin and I peered in) Understand?" Her voice was so sweet and understanding. I asked another question "Can I touch it?" She told me no because it is her private parts. She pulled her underwear and pants back on. Then she gave me the private part speech. "You can not touch my private parts because thats wrong to touch other peoples private parts okay. If anyone other than me touches your private parts than that is very bad. Okay?" I nodded.
jon	16	I was terrified. My mom took a bath with my for the first time that i could actually comprehend her body when I was eight. She got me naked. and then got naked her self. I just stared at her crotch. She noticed and knelt down so i can see her face. She smiled and explained to me a girls vagina. She let me touch it and she explained where the pee comes out and stuff. She also took the time to explain breast to me and let me feel hers even though i have done that before.
Marc-Antoine	16	i dont remember.
Tom	23	about age 9

How did anatomical differences between boys and girls contribute to your feelings of discomfort when girls saw you in your diapers? Did you feel that your situation was different from the norms of most families and perhaps cultural or societal norms with regards to modesty and mixed-gender environments?

Name	Age	Answer
Andrew	16	Once I discovered that a boys body was so different from a girls I felt even more awkward about having a girl see me in my diapers or naked. Right after my bath the night i found out my mother asked my sister to put my diaper on. I cried really hard and ran away and hid- naked- in my closet. My mom came in and asked me what the the matter. I told her "I dont want her to see me naked cause she doesnt have a weewee!!!"
Brendon	14	The differences between girls and boys like the fact they had a vagina and we have a penis never gave me any problems. It was when girls would see my boner and make fun of it and tease me that got me mad at them. My sister would make me mad at her and her friends because she would encourage them to tease me when she and they were changing me. I hated that. I know our family is different from some of the family of some of my friends. They are like way uptight about walking around their houses in just their undies or naked than I am. Some of my friends think it's cool that I can go around my house in a diaper or naked even with my sisters there to see me. Some of them will go around in their undies or naked with me in my house too even if my sisters get to see them.
Marc-Antoine	16	it dosen't contribute.
Greg	33	I don't think I was worried about the anatomical differences. I only knew that if a girl found out I was wearing a diaper, they would say "gross!" One time after I had pooped in my pants in a department store, a girl smelled me and said really loud, "Who shit their pants?"
Tom	23	boys were the same as me and peed the same

How did behavioral differences between boys and girls contribute to your feelings of discomfort when girls saw you in your diapers? Did you feel that your situation was different from the norms of most families and perhaps cultural or societal norms with regards to modesty and mixed-gender environments?

Name	Age	Answer
Brendon	14	See my answer to above question.
Tom	23	boys seemed 'normal'

How did differences between the ways boys and girls are dressed (including differences in underwear) contribute to your feelings of discomfort when girls saw you in your diapers? Did you feel that your situation was different from the norms of most families and perhaps cultural or societal norms with regards to modesty and mixed-gender environments?

Name	Age	Answer
Tom	23	just didn't like girls seeing me in my diapers

Why did it bother you to poop in your diapers in the presence of girls or to even have girls know that you pooped in your diapers when girls poop in the same way (anatomically) that boys do?

Name	Age	Answer
Andrew	16	It was tha fact that my poop was sitting in my diaper where everyone can smell it or hear it come out of me and then when I was done pooping some one would have to chage me.
Brendon	14	It never bothered me to poop my diaper around my sisters. Sometimes they let me come in the bathroom with them when they pee or poop in the toilet just to tease me because they sit on the toilet to do it and I have to do it in my diaper. I used to get mad when they made me go in the bathroom with them but now I like watching them do it.
Marc-Antoine	16	i dont poop in my diaper.
Greg	33	Girls act more grossed out by the smell of poop. I have gotten worse feedback from girls after I have pooped in my pants.
Tom	23	only wet

At what levels of involvement did having a girl see you in your diapers or know about you wearing diapers bother you? How much did it bother you for her to even know you wore diapers, much less see you in diapers, much less again touch your diapers and/or your private areas?

Name	Age	Answer
Andrew	16	Since i was ten I have felt so awkward when a girl is around and i am just in my diapers or naked. I feel like they are constantly looking. I feel afraid of them teasing me or something. Even my own sister who has seen me since birth in diapers and naked. She has even touched my naked body in baths and changing my diaper but I still hate it when she is around and I am naked.
Brendon	14	When I was little it bother me a lot. Now it doesn't bother me much. Some girls I don't know too well like at school I really don't want them to know anything about me wearing diapers. The less people at school who know the better. I don't mind my sisters or their friends and the sisters of some of my friends seeing or touching me in diapers or playing with my penis and balls especially during a change. I like that because it feels really good. :-)

At what age did you feel more at ease about girls seeing you in diapers? How did you become more at ease and less bothered by girls seeing you in diapers?

Name	Age	Answer
Andrew	16	never.
Brendon	14	Between the ages of 10 and 11 I began to feeling more at ease about girls seeing me in diapers or changing me. I have always been used to getting changed by my sisters. But like after the age of 10 the teasing went down and I wasn't teased a lot. Also my sisters friends would help them and most of them were always nice to me and treated me like totally cool. By 11 or 12 I liked them changing me because it became sexy like they would play with my penis and they would make me have dry comes. That was real awesome. :-) Even today it don't bother me to be seen by my sisters and other girls when I am just wearing diapers. In our house there are really no modesty rule and that's cool with me.
Greg	33	When I grew up and started wearing diapers 24/7, I got used to the fact that sometimes people will notice that I'm in diapers. I'm used to it now.
Tom	23	never

Average Age of respondents to this question:	27.6
Range of ages of respondents:	10 -  80

Age Distribution
Under 10	0
10-14	3
15-19	4
20-24	1
25-29	2
30-34	2
35-39	0
40-44	0
45-49	0
50-54	0
55-59	0
60-64	1
65-69	0
70-74	0
75-79	0
80+	1

Youth Age Distribution
6	0
7	0
8	0
9	0
10	1
11	1
12	0
13	0
14	1
15	0
16	4
17	0

Diaper Types
Single disposable diapers- plain white	12
Single disposable diapers- plain white	5
Single disposable diapers- patterned/colored	3
Multiple disposable diapers- plain white	2
Multiple disposable diapers- patterned/colored	3
Single cloth diapers- plain white	2
Single cloth diapers- patterned/colored	7
Multiple cloth diapers- plain white	3
Multiple cloth diapers- patterned/colored	0
Multiple underpants- plain white	0
Multiple underpants- patterned/colored	0
Other makeshift diapers	7
Single plastic pants- plain	8
Single plastic pants- patterned/colored	0
Multiple plastic pants- plain	0
Percentage of those 18+ who only wore these diapers as a boy:	0.00%

Pantslessness
Always	4
Usually	2
Sometimes	8
Rarely	2
Never	0
Pantless score	58.82%
Percentage of those 18+ who reported being pantsless as a boy	0.00%

Diaper Usage
Pee	16
Poop	9
Percent of brothers 18+ whose diaper usage reported only as a boy	0.00%

Older Sisters
One	8
Two	2
Three	2
More than three	0

Younger Sisters
One	5
Two	2
Three	0
More than three	1

No sisters at all
One	1

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