How much does wearing diapers affect your self-esteem?

Number of responses received: 36

Response	Count	Percent	Graph
Extremely	5	13.9%
Moderately	6	16.7%
Somewhat	5	13.9%
Modestly	7	19.4%
Very little	7	19.4%
Not at all	6	16.7%
Total:	36

How would you rate your self-esteem at different age levels?

Response	Count	Percent	Graph
Before Age 6- High	13	36.1%
Before Age 6- Medium	12	33.3%
Before Age 6- Low	8	22.2%
Ages 6 to 12- High	7	19.4%
Ages 6 to 12- Medium	15	41.7%
Ages 6 to 12- Low	12	33.3%
Ages 13 to 17- High	8	22.2%
Ages 13 to 17- Medium	13	36.1%
Ages 13 to 17- Low	10	27.8%
Ages 18 to 30- High	6	16.7%
Ages 18 to 30- Medium	9	25.0%
Ages 18 to 30- Low	5	13.9%
Ages 30 and up- High	6	16.7%
Ages 30 and up- Medium	5	13.9%
Ages 30 and up- Low	3	8.3%
Total:	36

If you did not wear diapers would your self-esteem be higher?

Response	Count	Percent	Graph
Absolutely	8	17.4%
Most likely	4	8.7%
Probably	8	17.4%
Maybe	8	17.4%
Probably not	8	17.4%
Not likely	6	13.0%
Absolutely not	2	4.3%
I don't know	2	4.3%
Total:	46

As a boy, how many friends did you have whom you regarded as close friends?

Response	Count	Percent	Graph
None	2	5.6%
One	6	16.7%
Two	5	13.9%
Three	9	25.0%
Four	6	16.7%
Five	5	13.9%
Six	0	0.0%
Seven	0	0.0%
Eight	1	2.8%
Nine	0	0.0%
Ten	1	2.8%
10 to 15	0	0.0%
15 to 20	1	2.8%
20 to 25	0	0.0%
25 to 30	0	0.0%
More than 30	0	0.0%
Total:	36

As a boy, how many friends did you have whom you regarded as semi-close friends or acquaintances?

Response	Count	Percent	Graph
None	1	2.8%
One	2	5.6%
Two	3	8.3%
Three	6	16.7%
Four	3	8.3%
Five	1	2.8%
Six	1	2.8%
Seven	3	8.3%
Eight	3	8.3%
Nine	1	2.8%
Ten	5	13.9%
10 to 15	5	13.9%
15 to 20	1	2.8%
20 to 25	1	2.8%
25 to 30	0	0.0%
More than 30	0	0.0%
Total:	36

As a boy, how many enemies did you have whose primary reason for being your enemy is because they knew you wore diapers?

Response	Count	Percent	Graph
None	24	68.6%
One	1	2.9%
Two	2	5.7%
Three	1	2.9%
Four	3	8.6%
Five	0	0.0%
Six	1	2.9%
Seven	0	0.0%
Eight	0	0.0%
Nine	0	0.0%
Ten	0	0.0%
10 to 15	1	2.9%
15 to 20	2	5.7%
20 to 25	0	0.0%
25 to 30	0	0.0%
More than 30	0	0.0%
Total:	35

What was the approximate boy/girl ratio of your friends (close and semi-close combined?)

Response	Count	Percent	Graph
100% boys/0% girls	7	20.6%
75% boys/25% girls	15	44.1%
50% boys/50% girls	8	23.5%
25% boys/75% girls	4	11.8%
0% boys/100% girls	0	0.0%
Total:	34

What was the approximate boy/girl ratio of your enemies?

Response	Count	Percent	Graph
100% boys/0% girls	9	33.3%
75% boys/25% girls	9	33.3%
50% boys/50% girls	7	25.9%
25% boys/75% girls	0	0.0%
0% boys/100% girls	2	7.4%
Total:	27

At what age did your self-esteem change for the better, if ever?

Response	Count	Percent	Graph
Under 6	0	0.0%
6	1	2.9%
7	0	0.0%
8	1	2.9%
9	0	0.0%
10	3	8.8%
11	4	11.8%
12	1	2.9%
13	2	5.9%
14	2	5.9%
15	1	2.9%
16	2	5.9%
17	2	5.9%
18	1	2.9%
Over 18	10	29.4%
Never	4	11.8%
Total:	34

Which diaper-related factors contributed the most to your lowered self-esteem?

Response	Count	Percent	Graph
Having other kids know I wear diapers in the first place	13	36.1%
Having my diapers show through my pants	7	19.4%
Having others see me in diapers without pants on	12	33.3%
Having others see me naked during diaper changes	3	8.3%
Smelling of pee	11	30.6%
Smelling of poop	5	13.9%
Having a diaper fetish and not being able to change it	10	27.8%
Thinking that I am gay because I like diapers	7	19.4%
Knowing I would never be a "normal" boy because of diapers	14	38.9%
Having more enemies than friends	5	13.9%
Not having teachers or other adults come to my aid	3	8.3%
Not being invited to sleepovers (or being limited)	8	22.2%
Not being able to have sleepovers (or being limited)	10	27.8%
Having to wear diapers for punishment purposes	6	16.7%
Not having enough love/support from friends over my diapers	6	16.7%
Not having enough love/support from family over my diapers	7	19.4%

What have been the effects of your lowered self-esteem as a result of wearing diapers?

Response	Count	Percent	Graph
Depression	14	38.9%
Suicidal thoughts	5	13.9%
Not caring what others think of me	13	36.1%
Not caring how I look (e.g. diapers showing)	13	36.1%
Not caring if I smell	10	27.8%
Not wanting friends to be around	8	22.2%
Not wanting friends at all	4	11.1%
Not trusting anyone	10	27.8%
Self-doubts about my sexuality	7	19.4%
Uncertainly about my life as an adult	11	30.6%
Angry, violent thoughts against my enemies	7	19.4%
Angry thoughts against those I know I should trust but can't	6	16.7%
Less motivation to succeed	8	22.2%
Anxiety over appeal to opposite sex (or same sex if gay)	10	27.8%
Paranoia	1	2.8%

Describe in detail how wearing diapers affected your self-esteem as a boy and how it made you feel. How and when did this feeling change, if ever, and if for the better or for the worse?

Name	Age	Answer
John	58	Wearing diapers as an adolescent made me feel guilty of having to live a life of secrecy. I lived that way out of fear of bring found out until I was thirty. After seeing the Phil Donahue show on Infantilism, I decided to come out of the closet and live life the way I want not how some one else wants me to live.
Peter	16	My only close friend knew and i made it as a joke to show b making it seem an accident. i think it made no difference as my "friend" :D was moving away to live away from his parents.
		I didn't start wearing diapers all the time until I was out of college. After I discovered adult diapers, I wore
col56	35	i had very little self esteem i never whent out to play with ppl till i was 14 then i only played with ppl yonger than me all my frends acted older in wot thay liked to do
Brian	15	I didn't wear diapers that much as a kid, but I knew I liked them and sometimes I felt a bit ashamed. I told my mom about me liking diapers when I was 12 and I was sad because she was sad an
tomar	20	I don't think my diapers had any affect on my self-esteem
j	14	did not change much
Nicholas	12	Sometimes i feel just like i am just a little boy. When i was younger i hated to be in diapers now i like them and it has been better for my self-esteem.
Jimbo	59	Did feel as if I fit in.I was "different"
	57	Thought I was potty trained, but had accidents, and went back into diapers. Wetting accidents infrequently, but more so when playing outside, waited too long to poop and had accidents, whcih caused diapers to be put on in hopes "this will be the last time."
tomar	22	I've never had any problems about having to wear diapers. My friends accept them as my under pants. No problem.
Byron, Timothy, Kevin, D.J. (ages 12-17)	14	Mostly it affected me when I, was younger before the age that puberty set in, I just felt mostly embarrassed and ashamed being in diapers mainly out in public and being changed and naked, as I always had an erection.
Bobby	10	I hate it. It makes me look like a baby.
The Nasty Blind Aspie	21	Frankly, it has been diapers that have kept me sane during all these years. The problems I checked above would have been FAR worse if I had not had diapers to fall back on as an emotional release and method of relaxation. Since I have moved away from my parents, (I love them and they are great people) I have finally discovered the freedom to be who I was meant to be in many ways both related and not related to diapers.

Which factors concerning your diapers affected your self-esteem the most? Describe how and why these factors made you feel the way you felt about yourself:

Name	Age	Answer
John	58	Before there were home computers there was no internet. No AOL "Diaper" Chat rooms. You were on you're own. No one else you knew wore diapers. I used to think surely there had to be at least a hand full of people who also liked to wear them some where out there, not just me.
Peter	16	thinking "are people looking at me" and when i didnt wear them people seemed not to look and i stopped wearing them outside other than bike rides as it gave comfort and i felt more secure nad a little naught as no 1 knew.
col56	35	if thy showed when i was playing or if i wet them
Brian	15	I felt ashamed when getting enjoyment out of wearing diapers when I was younger. Then I realized this. I guess the feeling of security helps me feel good about my self when wearing a diaper
tomar	20	None
j	14	people thinking that I wet the bed and that it is only for babies
Nicholas	12	When i have pooped in my diapers i sometimes fell i am just a little boy. Also when i am having my diaper changed i dont fell i am a big boy.
Jimbo	59	Same as above.
	57	After pooping, afraid to tell, and being told that you'll never grow up to be a big boy doing that and wearing diapers.
tomar	22	Nothing
Byron, Timothy, Kevin, D.J. (ages 12-17)	14	Mostly because I, we wore nothing else, almost alway even out in public, but our diapers and plastic baby pants.
Bobby	10	I feel babyish. They make this annoying crinkling noise. I don't want people to see me.
The Nasty Blind Aspie	21	The fact that I was caught with diapers really made me feel completely worthless and like a bad or unworthy son, but it really isn't a big deal. I am not interested in telling a sob story.

Describe your boyhood friends (boys) and include details on how supportive they were of you and what they did to bolster your self-esteem (please also indicate if they wore diapers themselves or not and if so, for which reasons). Indicate age you and your friends were at the time you knew them. Also indicate if they ever stood up for you or defended you against your enemies:

Name	Age	Answer
John	58	my Friends did't find out the truth about me until we were grown adults. Once they found out the truth there were fine with it. They never know when I am wearing a diaper or diapers. They don't ask and I don't offer. I am able to joke around about the subject with them and I laugh just as hard as they do.
Peter	16	my friends from school were face friends that i had but never trusted and i dont know what they done but i never went to school with a nappy on nor talk about it, even nappy wearers from school i didnt make friends with as they couldnt be trusted as had no 1 to turn to to see if i as "ab-normal" thats how i found this webby.
col56	35	one tryed them but didnt like it
Brian	15	they didn't know
tomar	20	Two of my best friends wore diapers at night and one wore 24/7 like me
j	14	thay did not know
Nicholas	12	My best friends have seen me in my diapers many times and i dont care about that and they dont care too. My best friends just accept me as i am. My best friends are 6 and 7 years old and i have known them from my daycare since they were only one or two years old.
Jimbo	59	Moved around too much from 1 place to another.Did have any close attachments until I was out on my own.
	57	They wore training pants, and had accidents too, because they had big family and diapers were supposed to be only for babies, not big boys.
tomar	22	My friends always knew that I wore diapers and never made an issue about it.
Byron, Timothy, Kevin, D.J. (ages 12-17)	14	Virtually all of them that I, was daily with were also 24/7 in diapers, so this help my self esteem, ours...
Bobby	10	I don't have any friends because of my diapers.
The Nasty Blind Aspie	21	First of all, NONE of my friends wore diapers or new about mine. Tommy, the brother of a friend of mine, used to wet the bed, but no one ever talked about it and we all wordlessly agreed never to mention it. Danny, Casey and Tommy were my main friends, and they mostly supported and stood up for me even in the face of certain overbaring people. None of us were particularly fond of my sister who has, quite unfortunately, been more an enemy in the past than a friend. Fortunately, we have grown somewhat closer and I don't see much of her anyway.

Describe your boyhood friends (girls) and include details on how supportive they were of you and what they did to bolster your self-esteem. Indicate age you and your friends were at the time you knew them. Also indicate if they ever stood up for you or defended you against your enemies:

Name	Age	Answer
John	58	no I was very tall for my age, so no one gave me a hard time.
Peter	16	MY girlfriend didnt know and i never told her as her sister was some1that would spread it.
Brian	15	they didn't know
tomar	20	My best friends had no problem with my diapers
j	14	had none
Nicholas	12	Some of the girls at my school are very helpfull to me and if i start to cry because i get teased by the boys they stop the teasing.
Jimbo	59	N/A
tomar	22	I'm gay and was never attracted to girls
Byron, Timothy, Kevin, D.J. (ages 12-17)	14	They were mainly my, our sisters, cousins, and their girl friends, they were advocates of us boys being permanently in diapers.
The Nasty Blind Aspie	21	I knew several girls, but Chrissa was more my sister's friend than mine. I never really had any female friends besides Chrissa, but she was my sister's friend far more than I. She and I played a bit when Lauren wasn't around, but we never really did get too close.

Describe your boyhood enemies (boys) and include details on what they did to lower your self-esteem as far as your diapers were concerned. Include details such as gender and how they found out you wear diapers and indicate age you and your enemies were at the time you knew them.

Name	Age	Answer
John	58	never had any enemies, and I sure would not have let them know anything about what I wore.
Peter	16	they found every little thing to make fun of and i didnt want to give them more ammo, hair cut they made fun or i would wear what i wanted on non uniform day they made fun. i tried to forget it as i am what i am and im not gonna change to please people.
col56	35	my biggest enemie was my brother so he found out easly made me act like a baby and over things
Brian	15	they didn't know
tomar	20	I had no real enemies
j	14	no one really knew
Nicholas	12	My worst enemies have attacked me several times on my way home from school and stolen my pants so had to walk home in diapers only. They are 12 to 14 years old and started to attack me a year ago.
Jimbo	59	Tried to depants me and diaper me.
tomar	22	No enemies
The Nasty Blind Aspie	21	I never really had any enemies besides my sister, who is a bit over two years older than me. She never really had anything to do with my hidden diaper interests, but she was a pest otherwise. My friends and I used to plot revenge attempts against her, many of which resulted in her telling mommy and us getting in trouble. It was worth it, and thinking about it brings a nostalgic smile to my face.

Describe your boyhood enemies (girls) and include details on what they did to lower your self-esteem as far as your diapers were concerned. Include details such as gender and how they found out you wear diapers and indicate age you and your enemies were at the time you knew them.

Name	Age	Answer
John	58	they did nothing.
Peter	16	they only really join in with the boys but never on their own.
col56	35	it was his girlfreand did wot he did
Brian	15	the didn't k now
tomar	20	none
j	14	did not have any
Jimbo	59	Helped the boys out.
tomar	22	No enemies
The Nasty Blind Aspie	21	I think I have already answered this question, because I have talked about my sister quite extensively. She really was fun to annoy.

How did you deal with your self-esteem issues? Did you reach a point where you figured everyone knew about your diapers and it didn't matter, or did you take a defensive stance and not let their teasing bother you anymore? Did you ever pull a "Chris Barrett" (read "Diaper Desires and "Forever in Diapers") and boldly get in their faces (figuratively speaking, though literal is possible, too) with the fact that you wear diapers?

Name	Age	Answer
John	58	never needed to push my desires off on other people. My Diaper wearing was always kept very quite. It was something my parents knew about but we never talked about.
Peter	16	i tried many things untill the very last day when i had to get my exam results when i went boldy into school to get the results with the rest of year 11 with a nappy on and no1 seemed to either know or care and i felt better i even stood chatted to the headmaster (was with my sister and she went same school so he stopped us to chat ) and that was the best day of school
Brian	15	A shrink helped me out. I now think wearing diapers isn't a bad thing.
tomar	20	I never realy gave any thought to my diapers. They are the kind of under pants that I wear
j	14	tried to stop wetting the bed
Nicholas	12	I have found out that if i dont try to hide my diapers it is not funny to tease me. Last weekend i decided to play on the street in my diapers only because it was very hot and i was not teased. Also if somebody tease me i have to try not to start crying. Usually i start to cry when i get teased and that makes things much worse and i get more teased.
Jimbo	59	No.
tomar	22	My parents and family were always very supportive and made my diapers just the kind of under pants that I wore.
Byron, Timothy, Kevin, D.J. (ages 12-17)	14	I, we just grew up with a good self esteem of our selves, so what that we wear diapers and us them.
The Nasty Blind Aspie	21	I have never let teasing bother me, since I always find some way to either come back with something more nasty or laugh it off if nothing else. No one but my parents knew about my forbidden diapers, so I had no enemies from that. Frankly, I never really let stupid people bother me, because I would spend my entire life pissed off if I did. I instead prefer to teach them what happens when you screw around with someone who can be classified as genius.

How would you envision yourself as a boy if you did not wear diapers (or at least if not under the same circumstances)? Do you think self-esteem even if you did have to keep wearing diapers? your self-esteem would have been greater or would it have still been affected by other reasons? What things would have improved your

Name	Age	Answer
John	58	my self estem never needed fixing because I choose to wear diapers instead of Fruit of the loom diapers for men and boys.Friut of the Loom never to my knowledge ever made diapers, but jockey briefs are a close cousin to a prefold diaper.
Peter	16	i dont think it would of made any difference
Brian	15	Now that I think about it, I really wouldn't be me without diapers. I don't how my self-esteem would be though.
tomar	20	The same as I am
j	14	possibly higher
Jimbo	59	A more sympathetic and understanding peer group.
	57	At the time, wearing big boy underwear was a big thing, and accidents in training pants meant more work for mom, because there were no disposables back then, so it meant more laundery and she had to wash me up.
tomar	22	Just the same as I am now.
		Don't know, probably very unhappy and getting into trouble trying to wear diapers all the time, if our parents, and sisters didn't enforce our wearing diapers.
Bobby	10	I'd be normal if I didn't have to wear diapers.
The Nasty Blind Aspie	21	I would probably have lost my mind and maybe even killed myself. They are my main source of comfort and relaxation. I am a better person because of who I am, including my love of diapers. I am no longer ashamed of myself because of a desire I did not choose to have. I am who I am, and that is all I have to say. If you like it, great. If not, well that's just too bad.

What would you advise to a boy who is suffering from self-esteem issues because he wears diapers? What would you advise him to do and what would you advise him NOT to do?

Name	Age	Answer
John	58	Get honest with you're self. Ask you're self if you are addicted yet to wearing diapers? If the answer is yes. Then you better get busy and plan you're future in diapers 24/7. Decide at what age you plan on being open with you're self and then others around you. Or you can choose a guilt ridden life, you're choice.
Peter	16	only tell people you can trust. If people make fun just try and forget it as they soon get bored by it.
Brian	15	Try not to worry so much about others (if a wetter) or wear them even if they make you feel good even when others think it is wrong (if fetish)
tomar	20	Just wear your diapers and don't go to extremes to hide them.
j	14	think of all the good things about them and try to find someone on the net to chat to with the same problem
Nicholas	12	Not to hide his diapers and not to start crying if he gets teased.
Jimbo	59	You are every bit as good or bad as everyone else.We live in an imperfect world.Just ignore them.You will find someone who will share your ideals and make it a better life.
	57	Don't worry about it. You might think it's a big deal, and some other kids might make fun, but who cares? You're the one wearing them.
tomar	22	Don't let it bother you. Daipers are a knid of under pants just like boxers or briefs.
Byron, Timothy, Kevin, D.J. (ages 12-17)	14	Hey, you not the only boy out in this world that wears diapers, (regardless of what ever you age) there is other boys you age in diapers to, learn to love it and enjoy it make it also a sexual thing and you pee pee, and body will come to love you being in diapers.
The Nasty Blind Aspie	21	I would always advise people to hide their diaper related interests as well as possible, as this will probably save them from all kinds of grief from people. Believe in yourself and who you are, and never be ashamed of who you are no matter what it is. You are the only one like you, and that HAS to count for something. If all else fails, there's always suicide. Of course, I am a huge suicide advocate, but that's not a story to tell here.

Name

Age

Answer

Average Age of respondents to this question:	25.6
Range of ages of respondents:	10 -  59

Age Distribution
Under 10	0
10-14	9
15-19	9
20-24	4
25-29	2
30-34	2
35-39	3
40-44	0
45-49	1
50-54	1
55-59	4
60-64	0
65-69	0
70-74	0
75-79	0
80+	0

Youth Age Distribution
6	0
7	0
8	0
9	0
10	2
11	2
12	1
13	1
14	3
15	5
16	2
17	0

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