"Infantilism is a phenomenon, which is an uncommon and possibly sexual orientation
toward infantile things, actions, or situations; usually giving sexual pleasure, emotional comfort,
or an outlet for social stresses." (LilJennies "Infantilism vs Pedophilia." 1998). There are several
variations of infantilism the two most common are ageplay and the diaper fetish.
Ageplay or "TransVestism" is a role in which the participant brings out their inner child.
Most go back to an infant or toddler age. The participant if in a couple situation one plays the
parentlike authority figure while the other brings out their innermost desires. During the ageplay
scenario the book (Different loving: An Exploration of the World of Sexual Dominance and
Submission.) suggests that some ageplayers seek to replay one key fantasy. One example would
be a person who eroticizes a specific age and fantasizes about a specific scenario, such as being
caught on the Internet in a web site like DPF and gets scolded and disciplined for having these
Then their is the diaper fetish which is also known as Fetishism (objects) . It focuses on
infantile objects, such as diapers, plastic pants, and pacifiers. This is where most infantilists play
out their role, most of these participants get the secure feeling of being back in diapers. When
people were back in diapers at a young age they always had the secure feeling of having
someone around to take care of them and made them feel secure. (Encyclopedia of Unusual Sex
Practices: Love Brenda)
Just about every infantilist feels lonely, isolated and feels abnormal. Dan who is a
member of DPF felt very wrong that he did not belong to the way society thinks. Every
infantilists keeps these feelings/desires hidden, kept as a dark secret. Each one feels out of all
humanity, is like this. It is nearly harmless in and of itself, but we still repress it. Each person
fears disgrace, ridicule as a abnormal or weirdo in the way society thinks of us.
Most members feel these desires or differences between the ages of five and fifteen.
When the desires become to much their personality changes and the person has an usual
curiosity or interest in things associated with babies. These could be objects, most visibly
diapers, but could also be sensations or situations as well. Normally, these are notable because
they oppose the common urging to mature or the common aversion to bodily waste. At puberty,
these interests may take on an additional, sexual element, becoming more infuential and
typically more repressed. If acted on, they may involve experimenting with some form of diaper.
This experimentation may be accompanied by masturbation and fantasies. Diapers may
become a common theme in dreams. Feelings of guilt at being different, perverse, or disgustion
are common, starting at the realization that these longings arenít common. This guilt tends to
fade slowly after the discovery that there are others who share this orientation. ( Explorations III
- Understanding Infantilism: BitterGrays Den:
Dan started to realize at the age of 17 that these feelings are okay. Each person has their
own way of doing things and that each person is normal. This occurred when his older brother
revealed that he was gay, he just accepted him for who he was even thou he did not understand
how his brother could be that way. After accepting his older brother and doing research on the
Internet he realized that their are more people who have similar attractions toward infantile
things mostly towards diapers.
With more research on this topic I found out that their is approximately 18 million people
world wide, that have these types of feelings and that they participate in a widespread of
varieties. I also realized that more male than female have these feelings. This could be
because males just seem to be more susceptible to developing sexual fetishes than females, but it
could also be because in this society males are more encouraged to explore their sexuality than
females are. (LilJennies "Infantilism vs Pedophilia." 1998). After researching this topic I found
out that the Internet is the best way for each infantilist to stay in contact with others and to be
able to find information on infantilism. One of the best sources for information and support is
DPF (Diaper Pail Friends) which is on the Internet.
After Dan finally realized the he was an Infantilist he wanted to find out more
information on why he was an infantilst and how these feelings came about. So he started to
read books on the subject. The best book on Infantilism was Different Loving in which the book
stated that a majority of infantilist regress back to the age of an infant or toddler or have these
types of feelings because as a child they did not get the nurturing that they needed from their
own parents so they try to find them from other sources, to make up for what they missed out on
as a young child.
So as you can see being a infantilism is nothing to be ashamed of and that it has nothing
about involving children, itís just something to replace what you lost out on or a feeling you do
not want to give up.
1.) Love, Brenda. Encyclopedia of Unusual Sex Practices. New York: Barricade Books, 1992.
2.) Allen, Dan. Personal Interview. 30 July 1999.
3.) LilJennieís "Infantilism vs Pedophilia." 1998
http://www.kiva.net/~flint/notepad.html (06 Aug. 1998) July 29, 1999
4. Brame, Gloria g., William d, Brame. and Jon Jacobs. Different Loving: An Exploration of
the World of Sexual Dominance and Submission. New York: Villard Books, 1993.
5. Bittergreys Den "Explorations III- Understading Infantilism" 1997
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